Currently listening to a book on audio in the car for inspiration. It’s one of those… live the life you’ve always wanted, you can do it, breaking the cycle of negativity and self-doubt type things. It’s fucking awesome. It drops truth bombs like you wouldn’t believe. If you’re the type to roll your eyes at this sort of thing, I don’t blame you; that was me, too, and sometimes still is.
As I’ve gotten a little older, I’ve thought more seriously about my lifelong plan for supporting myself and a family, and the way I want to live my life (alongside and in partnership with my husband-to-be, obviously). The financial picture we’d need, the comfort level we desire, blah, blah, blah.
This, in conjunction with how absolutely boring, limiting, and downright painful I find (and have always found) working for someone else, especially when that someone else is a massive entity with tons of seemingly pointless rules for how it does things… oh, and cubicles… has inspired me to think more openly about what I am capable of. Hence, the audiobook. It’s been all too tempting to “do what I do” and convince myself that going into my own business will be too much work, too little reward, too risky, too costly, too whatever-the-fuck. Until I decided to stop acting like a child and listen.
Guess what I’ve discovered? I am capable of anything I decide I am capable of.
Here are some of my favorite quotes. They’re great. Remember ’em.
“When we trust that we live in an abundant universe and allow ourselves to give freely, we raise our frequency, strengthen our faith, and feel awesome thereby putting ourselves in flow and the position to receive abundant amounts in return. When we’re in fear, we hold on to what we’ve got because we don’t trust that there’s more. We pinch off the energy, we’re scared to share, and we focus on, and create more of, the very thing we’re hoping to avoid, which is lack.”
“Once you’ve truly forgiven someone, wipe the slate clean. So often we form judgments about people and then, no matter what they do, we see them through the lens of that judgment. Which means we’re just waiting for them to piss us off again. Which means we’re still in the Forvginess-lite stage; we’re pretending we’re cool but we’re really still holding on to some resentment. Release all expectations, let everyone off the hook, treat people as a blank slate over and over again, expect only the best from them regardless of what they’ve done in the past.”
“So often, we pretend we’ve made a decision, when what we’ve really done is signed up to try until it gets too uncomfortable.”
“Forgiveness is all about taking care of you, not the person you need to forgive. It’s about putting your desire to feel good before your desire to be right. It’s about taking responsibility for your own happiness instead of pretending it’s in somebody else’s hands. It’s about owning your power by giving all your anger, resentment, and hurt the heave-ho.”
“It never ceases to amaze me the precious time we spend chasing the squirrels around our brains, playing out our dramas, worrying about unwanted facial hair, seeking adoration, justifying our actions, complaining about slow Internet connections, dissecting the lives of idiots, when we are sitting in the middle of a full-blown miracle that is happening right here, right now.
We’re on a planet that somehow knows how to rotate on its axis and follow a defined path while it hurtles through space! Our hearts beat! We can see! We have love, laughter, language, living rooms, computers, compassion, cars, fire, fingernails, flowers, music, medicine, mountains, muffins!”
“We are all perfect in our own, magnificent, fucked-up ways. Laugh at yourself. Love yourself and others. Rejoice in the cosmic ridiculousness.” (random note… this was the second time I’d come across advice to laugh at the ridiculousness in just a couple days. I’ve started trying it–laughing when I walk into a wall rather than being mad at the wall, etc. It truly does make you feel lighter).
“It’s about respecting yourself, instead of catering to your insecure need to be liked. This is incredibly powerful, because when you love yourself enough to stand in your truth no matter what the cost, everyone benefits. You start attracting the kinds of things, people, and opportunities, that are in alignment with who you truly are, which is way more fun than hanging out with a bunch of irritating energy suckers. And by declining to participate in other people’s drama, (i.e. refusing to rip people to shreds, to complain about how unfair the world is, etc.) you not only raise your own frequency, but you offer the drama queens the chance to rise up too, instead of everyone continuing to play a low, lame game. Never apologize for who you are. It lets the whole world down.”