So, I have somewhat established my own hypothesis on cultivating relationships through the art of conversation, therefore, have summarized it into the following three stages being:

Stage 1 (The Walk);

This is when the recipient of the initial greeting is most commonly (understandably) weary of whether or not they're going to turn the "hello" into an enthusiastic "how are you & what are you upto?" encounter.

The seconds in between "hello" & the recipient's response are very crucial as they dictate whether or not the conversation will move onto the next stage or come to an abrupt halt there 'n' there.

Stage 2 (The Jog);

This is when both parties have gone through the initial greeting hopefully without a hitch & are therefore onto the 'questioning' segment of things where a slight sense of empathy creeps its way into the conversation.

So each individual has started expressing interest in basic parts of the other's daily endeavours e.g. "How's it working in the service industry" & "Wow, inflation has hit us all so hard, buying a carton of milk these days costs an arm and a leg!" Purely the basics.

Now it's safe to say both parties are acquainted & the only thing that dictates whether or not the two individuals move onto stage three is purely enthusiasm in the correct doses, one must be able to adapt accordingly to different environments & people to be able to discern the difference.

Stage 3 (The Run);

This is the most exhilarating part, this is when both parties graduate from acquaintances to chums (for lack of a better term).

Now the conversation has moved from the questioning segment to the sharing of opinions & beliefs segment, the more an individual is capable of reaching this stage with different people, the more they are considered to have true prowess in the world of networking, a commonly known term for this individual would be "social butterfly".

A range of emotions can be a part of this stage, you can easily go from having an embroglio to sharing pictures of eachother's offspring in one sitting.

The more proficient one is at the art of networking, the more the recipient of the initial greeting (stage 1) would want to keep coming back for more & more while actually recalling names, gestures, body language & even facial expressions.


This is a little bit of what I've learned from just 5 years of being in the hospitality/service industry so there are copious amounts of experiences I'm yet to endure and apply to my multiple hypotheses. Please feel free to share any negative and/or positive opinions/experiences.

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