Perception versus Reality
Your perception is not my reality
Your Perception is not my Reality
So often I hear “Wow you hang out with a lot of pretty women!”. Yeah I do. I have a weakness for pretty women. I’m OK with that!!! The perception is that I have many women chasing after me and my affection. The reality is that isn’t the case. Most are not after me romantically. Most are around me because of how I make them feel and how I feel around them. I make people feel special. It’s what I do. I try to bring positive energy to every conversation.
Furthermore, I could list the names of women whom I’ve met in person and whatnot that I was romantically interested in. For whatever reason, that romantic interest wasn’t reciprocated. I used to be angry about that. Now I am not. Why you ask? OK, maybe you didn’t ask. I’m going to tell you anway. ☺
It is because losing my job forced me to focus on myself. In the book “Love yourself like your life depends on it” by Kamal Ravikant, there are some daily practices that I added to my morning routine.
Run/Walk 3 miles
Meditate for 10 minutes
Look in the mirror and say “I LOVE YOU” OUT LOUD to myself while looking myself straight in the eye for 5 straight minutes.
Recite my daily intentions.
All of that is about connecting to myself every day. I’ve been doing this for weeks and as Kamal says, soon the magic will happen. When you love yourself unconditionally the universe brings forth the bounty you desire, and that you set your intentions for. I firmly believe this.
Because of this, the perception that I have many women and the reality is that I don’t, doesn’t bother me anymore. I just live my life this way each day!!! It’s a phenomenal. I emerge from connecting to myself feeling powerful. I get validation from myself not others. Think about that. Just typing that and I feel happy inside.
Add to this, I wrote yesterday that I am becoming who I want to attract. Why because I am, for the first time in my life, learning to love myself unconditionally. (Yeah that’s one of my daily intentions.) That anger I used to feel for rejection is gone and replaced by love for myself and that validation that I am worthy of love.
It is so beautiful like the most beautiful, amazing thing you can imagine. Connecting to myself and loving myself.
Yes, I’m single. Yes, I am not perfect. Far from it. However, I accept myself as whole, the sum of all my parts, good and bad. I have learned to forgive myself and others. Yes I still have work on myself to do as it’s a journey not a destination. However, being in this place in this time is a great thing. It is magical for sure.
I wish others could see the value of just that one hour and what it does to my day. I know most have spouses and kids and obligations. However, if you connect to yourself and love yourself, EVERYONE around you will notice how happy you are and want to be around you more. If you can’t take the hour, just say “I love myself” repeatedly anytime you can to where all those other thoughts that TRY to get in your head, don’t make it. Do this in the shower, on your morning commute or while shopping in the grocery store. I do it on my morning run/walk just to keep all that other clutter out of my head. It’s funny as I feel very evangelical about this practice, but it works. It really does.
Hope this finds you well, living at peace, connected to the universe, treating yourself as sacred and loving yourself unconditionally.