…ugh, it means you haven’t chosen otherwise. You’re focused on the ruins, not building a new empire. You haven’t made your new line of thinking or way of being habitual. Your neurons aren’t rewired just yet.
How do you build strength? How do you get “healed,” if you want to think of it that way? You choose to act in spite of your discomfort. You choose to be someone new. You choose to think differently.