In our previous marriage, one of us could go to the other and say, “This thing you are doing is hurting me, please stop,” and the other would stop. Now it’s, “This thing you are doing is hurting me, please hold me while I cry about it because I know you need it to be happy and I love you.” That’s a different marriage.
Thanks for writing this! It is great to hear such a positive and affirming version of this story.
Caitlin Galante DeAngelis
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I’ve been looking for the words to describe this completely awkward and helpless feeling. THANK YOU! You nailed it.