Some Background

Since 2020 hit with a bang, I’ve been doing the majority of my thinking on how to enact change through my own resources. I don’t have many. But I have some.

This world is botched and I don’t want my son, Frankie’s, corner of it to be as botched. I…

Photo by Kelly Searle

All the trigger warnings. Just all.

I have never publicly spoken about this before. In fact, after my freshman year of college, I can count on one hand the number of people I have told about my rape and the subsequent impact it’s had on my life. I remember thinking…

Photo by Kelly Searle

As the holidays approach, my own grief journey has inspired me to break out of my shell and try to help others who might be experiencing a similar pain. There is not much out there on how to help a grieving person (a beautiful exception), or on how an introvert grieves differently. The lack of resources can be very lonely, for everyone involved. If a grieving loved one is introverted, you may not even get signals from them that they are suffering. You can be the person who breaks the silence and helps them talk. I’ve compiled a few insights into my own private struggle, and some of the unhelpful and helpful reactions I’ve gotten from people.

If you or someone you know has recently (or even long ago) experienced a loss, this time of year can bring up an unparalleled ache for missing loved ones. Anyone who has grieved knows that it’s a super awkward time to be experiencing loss. Let’s brave the awkwardness and support each other. (If you or someone you know is not grieving but you’d like to help, you can read this and be ready, or donate to a bereavement or PTSD charity).

Note: I haven’t used names in order to protect loved ones.

Kelly Searle

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