For what it’s worth, I’d much rather have you at my back than any of these frighteningly hateful people in the comments. I’m not perfect. I’m a gay guy who first heard the word “homophobic” when it was thrown in my face. It took kindness from advocates to help me get past my internalized homophobia and conservative religious worldview. My first step as a trapped closeted Mormon was just finding friends who were okay with gay people. I’m glad I found some who were also okay with the outspoken republican I was then too. Otherwise, I do not know where I’d be now. Frankly, more and more, I feel lucky that I qualified for aid despite being “wrong” in so many ways. I feel lucky that I didn’t get crushed by advocates while seeking them out for help. I hope others are as lucky.