I agree with what you mostly said and would like to share some insight with you. I’m a Filipino who was raised by my parents with help all throughout my childhood and the only time I had to do the dishes, cook for myself and everything else was when I moved out of the parents’ house at 25yo because I moved to Dubai. While my parents pay and provide all the help they employ with benefits, usually in accordance to our country’s labor laws, I don’t think it’s enough, because I personally cannot equate someone’s time, love and devotion with money. Having said that, I don’t think there’s a difference between Lola being given to Alex’s mom as a gift and not receiving anything in return of her service and someone who’s employed and paid. Since the beginning of time (or at least that I know of), having “servants” or “help” existed in our culture and we never called it slavery. So when I read Alex Tizon’s article, you could say, I was glad (maybe it’s not the right word) that finally someone said it. Why didn’t I do it before him, you ask? Because it never occured to me. So you’re right, articles and stories like this should be written and be heard and we need to talk and listen to each other instead of judging each other and criticizing.
“We are all dust passing through the air, the difference is, some are flying high in the sky, while others are flying low. But eventually, we all settle on the same ground.”― Anthony Liccione