Post #2: Privileges in Life

I am lucky enough to live in a well-off family. We are not rich, but we sit comfortably in our middle-class life style. My family has had few struggles and I have benefited from this. I get many advantages living this way compared to others who are less fortunate. I am sure I will never fully be able to account for all the ways I am at an advantage because I am blind to many of them. I have been brought up in a fairly stable and sheltered life. I get to travel with my family or friends. I can even attend camps and school trips to famous places. I have my own car and a caring family who support and guide me. Money is very rarely brought up as a problem, but it will occasionally show its face. All of these privileges make me numb. I forget there are other people who do not live in homes like mine. People who have not grown up with both parents present in their life with a plentiful paying job. These people do not get offered the same opportunities as me. This makes me feel guilty. I cannot do anything about where I am and where other people are, but still an undeserving feeling rests in the pit of my stomach when I think of the less privileged. On the contrary, people who are more advantaged make me jealous. In my eyes they are more egotistical than the rest of us. Families better off than my own seem to look down upon us. I cannot totally blame them because the United States class based society sets in place the idea that each class is so different that there should be no intermingling among them. Even though it is cynical of my mind to see the more advantaged in this way, my middle-class family still holds a certain level of respect for the people who have accomplished such impressive goals. My advantages leave me far from being perfect or above anyone else in any way. I have had my of my own hardships to deal with. Things like death, cancer, and depression have left their finger prints on me and my family. All advantages are brought about through work and sacrifices will be made. You are not living life properly if you hit no hardships or disadvantages. Life is supposed to be messy and everyone is finding their own way through it.

The song “So Big/So Small” from the musical “Dear Evan Hansen” is a more precise look on working through disadvantages select people must deal with. This song in particular is about the disadvantages of divorce and having a small child. There are so many disadvantages trying to live a freshly single life and juggling parenthood alone. Money becomes extraordinarily tight, your child does not understand what is happening, and they will always miss the guidance given by a second parent. The mother expresses this when she sings, “And I knew there would be moments that I’d miss, and I knew there would be space I couldn’t fill. And I knew I’d come up short a million different ways, and I did, and I do, and I will…. I will take your hand and squeeze it tightly and say… Your mom isn’t going anywhere your mom is staying right here, no matter what, I’ll be here.” The advantage to having such a strong-willed mother is that her determination will rub off onto her child. She is always trying to go that extra mile and provide as much for her kid as possible. Advantages and disadvantages are like yin and yang. You cannot have one without the other.