Not all people operate with the same level of integrity, regardless of gender. The random mismatches that occur across this spectrum are bound to wrought all sorts of misunderstandings. The bad news is they can be awkward and even painful. The good news is they provide fodder for thoughtful pieces like this, which often yields the singular gratification of personal growth.
I suspect this aspect of the human condition led you to gravitate toward the profession you chose. When all is said and done, sometimes, for some people, the tumblers do fall into place. Perhaps you stand among that elite group…yes?