Get over your discouragement
The alternation of ups and downs is an absolute norm on the way to success. Almost everyone goes through the stage of discouragement because of failures at least once during their carrier.
Discouragement is a mental state of complete lack of motivation and a constant struggle with oneself in order to continue doing one’s job and not give up.
When feeling discouraged, all mistakes and flaws are greatly exaggerated and seem to crowd all the positive thinking out of consciousness. As a result, hopelessness and anxiety may begin taking over the mind preventing a person from moving forward.
So, to minimize the baneful effects of possible discouragement on your performance and overall well-being, we suggest you use the tips below.
Acknowledge Your Emotional Disbalance
External stimuli make people experience certain emotions that give rise to feelings. By accepting the fact of having emotional problems, you can create a kind of gap between your feelings and your internal reaction to them. When covering this distance, you get some time to reasonably contemplate the situation and plan further moves.
As Viktor Frankl, an Austrian psychiatrist and founder of logotherapy, says, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom”.
Do Not Feel Any Guilt
Try not to be too self-judgmental if sometimes you can be not as active or productive as you are used to being. Feel free to forgive yourself for being mistaken or failing. That is the very experience you learn from. Remember that taking time to reset your mind and rejuvenate works out much more effective than criticizing and pushing hard yourself forward.
Keep In Mind Your Motives
Every time you catch yourself thinking that you are on the verge of a breakdown and close to giving up, keep asking yourself for what reason you are doing this. Strong emotional incentives are the main driving force behind your efforts. Make sure your aim is desirable and motivating enough in order not to let you quit halfway. Then you’ll accomplish your goal, whatever it’d take you.
Stay Realistic
We always get upset and disappointed when reality doesn’t live up to our expectations. The inability to manage them leads to demoralization and the absence of motivation. Therefore, finding and maintaining a sound balance between what you expect and what life may present to you is one of the ways to avoid disillusion.
Forget About Perfectionism
Setting and trying to meet high standards are definitely what we all should strive for. Yet, one important thing to remember is that perfection is almost out of reach. Long for excellence instead. Attempts to be perfect have more to do with the fear of failure, while the essence of excellence lies in doing your best and constant improvement.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
In a state of low morale, looking at other people in a comparative way will make things much worse. What you see is their successes and victories but not the struggles or failures they have experienced. That can make you feel inadequate and may even promote the development of an inferiority complex. Just be mindful that each of us is sui generis and has a different unique path to success.
Imagine The Overall Picture
Being impatient with getting immediate results may negatively affect your enthusiasm for work. Any results take time and effort. Try to take a longer view and visualize the fruits your present endeavors will bring in the future. The point is that the more you imagine what you want, the more motivated you are to achieve it.
Try Drawing A Mind Map
A mind map is a data visualization method that helps to structure information and find relationships between its parts. For its creation, draw on the blank piece of paper the main block with the key goal in the middle first. After that, build around other blocks with actions that will lead you to the ultimate goal and link them with the central block by arrows originating from it. Then you can divide those actions into sub-actions to make the map more comfortable and easier for you to follow.
So, discouragement can be viewed as a sort of psychological burden, which may seem challenging to get rid of on your own. Getting over it is obviously easier said than done. However, we hope that our pieces of advice will prove their practical value and will serve you when necessary.
What about you? Have you ever felt discouraged? We would love to know your secrets for dealing with this condition in the comments below.
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