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Mohammad Kermani
May 2, 2018 · 8 min read

Humans are sexual creatures that consider sex a need; it is an accepted act for them. At a certain age, they realize they have the power to find someone and attract them to fulfill their own emotional and sexual needs in a mutually beneficial way. This produces a relationship.

In the modern world today, human sexuality usually begins from the time young children learn of the word “porn” in school. Friends excitedly exchange this world freely, unaware that it has the potential to later ruin their lives. The child that has perhaps just discovered porn tries to explain what it is while the others are left confused. They try to figure out what the word means. If a friend is so excited about it, why not google it to see what it really is?

With a little of curiosity and persistence, he will find a pornographic website so easily. He tries to understand all of the actions that he is exposed to, feeling overwhelmed by stimuli. Throughout his first experience watching pornography, he feels strange and confused. There is a sense of excitement and stimulation, but also taboo. The pornography is creating a new definition of sex in his mind. Sex is no longer sacred or between two people who love each other, it is simply an erotic act sometimes involving a plumber, ending only when the plumber deposits liquid on a young woman’s face. The boy is only thirteen years old and this is what he begins to think. He no longer sees women as equal to men in the sexual relationship… because, in this case, the woman is not only positioned as subordinate to the man but she is to be defaced by his seminal fluid.

It is an unfortunate fact that, in general, pornography promotes violence and disrespect towards both men and women. Additionally, the industry supports an impossible and unrealistic physical ideal for womens & mens bodies.

In 2017, one of the most popular pornography websites shared their year in review data. The words ‘mom’, ‘step mom’ and ‘step sister’ are in the top 10 search terms.

Source: pornhub.com 2017 insights

Due to the extreme volume of pornography in the industry, producers of pornography are consistently having to seek new pornographic content to keep porn addicts engaged and excited. This has led to the desecration of the family unit, which is supposed to be both taboo and sacred. The porn industry has normalized sexual encounters between father and daughter, mother and son, step sister and step brother, grandmother and grandson, brother and sister, etc. There appears to be no boundaries within the porn industry, which is both startling and scary. Normalizing sex between family members steadily breaks down the boundaries that exist between family members and may promote sexual abuse between a willing porn user and his unwilling family member. Normalizing sex between family members is only one of the most negative effects of porn use, but it certainly is one of the darkest as well. The acceptance of this type of pornography among porn users and those who abstain is totally appalling. People should band together and rise up against this type of pornography in particular because it has the potential to destroy family life.

Source: kindnessblog

If we isolate the terms “mom” and “step mom” in connection to pornography, the immediate and most natural reaction is to be disturbed. Mothers are the center of a home’s loving kindness. They represent security and love that is felt innately by their children. All family members should treat their mothers well, preserving and respecting the maternal bond. Involving mothers and step mothers in pornography is malicious on the part of the porn industry. In an effort to introduce new material to the porn world, they have effectively attacked mothers and their position in both the family and society.

Outside of the dark and disrespectful effect porn has on families, there are plenty of accounts of young girls who have had incredibly negative first sexual experiences with their boyfriends. Boys who have had their minds manipulated and changed by their exposure to pornography have catalyzed harm in their relationships with young girls. These boys mirror and attempt to re-create the porn that they have normalized due to frequency and exposure to violent, disrespectful and disturbing scenes. Young girls are not prepared to combat the expectations of their boyfriends, which includes spanking, being tied up, violent blowjobs, depositing semen on their faces, etc.

“We are now bringing up a generation of boys on cruel, violent porn. Given what we know about how images affect people, this is going to have a profound influence on their sexuality, behavior and attitudes towards women. And the more likely they are to have trouble developing close, intimate relationships with real women. Some of these men prefer porn to sex with an actual human being. They are bewildered, even angry, when real women don’t want or enjoy porn sex” — Dr. Gail Dines

Why is porn slavery?

According to The Guardian market research conducted by internet providers found that the average age a boy first sees porn today is 11. Another study from the University of Alberta found that one third of 13-year-old boys admitted to viewing porn.

Pornography is very addictive, which means that many of these young boys are developing an unhealthy habit. It is enticing and exciting to them at first, but they do not realize that it is changing their preferences. They are led to believe that the female orgasm happens very quickly. They see violence in a sexual content and come to believe that it is very normal. They feel that they have accomplished some great task when they deposit semen on a girls face and hair. Sometimes, the boy expects the girl to wear the semen proudly, forbidding her to remove the deposit. It should be obvious to us that this is incredibly disrespectful and demeaning to young girls, but the porn industry has somehow normalized such appalling behavior.

For these young boys the habit of watching pornography becomes something that is no longer enjoyable. It begins to consume their lives, eventually spilling over into their intimate sexual encounters with women. They no longer enjoy sex. The sex is perfectly acceptable but they are unsatisfied because they are always looking for that unrealistic ‘wow’ factor that new and unusual porn gives them.

Looking for new content means that the porn itself is no longer interesting due to over exposure. They look for new exciting content. Porn producers and actors are forced to push boundaries and introduce taboo content to retain the addict and make money.

The problem with expecting and seeking out new content becomes especially prominent when the individual enters a serious relationship or gets married. His partner presents herself in one body and cannot fulfill the expectations that have been set by the porn industry. She cannot deliver the content or constantly change characteristics and roles to make her husband happy. She will only ever be one person delivering the same content time and time again. The relationship becomes boring for him quite quickly. After a while, the couple will become unhappy. The woman will begin to think there is something wrong with her. Eventually they decide to stay together in a miserable marriage while he abandons their relationship for porn, or they will break up so he can indulge in porn on his own.

Why is the production of porn still legal?

Could you find a logical answer as to why guns are legal in the United States? It’s all about trade!

Trade is the motivator behind many destructive (yet legal) malicious practices, including porn. Porn is a very lucrative business. It is a multi-billion dollar industry.

What makes child pornography illegal but violence in porn legal?

Of course we do not ever want to involve young children in sex. We do not want young children experimenting with one another either. They are not physically or mentally developed enough to experience sex in any context.

For all of these reasons, child pornography is illegal because it is harmful.

Pornography should be illegal since the internet is easily accessed by everyone and the majority of teenagers are exposed to pornography featuring sexual encounters between an individual and close relatives, violence between partners (usually male to female), disrespectful acts between partners, rape scenes, sex between a woman and an animal, etc. Additionally, the presentation of multiple partners creates the unrealistic expectation of a variety of sexual experiences with more than one person. The bond between a mother and son or between a step father and his step daughter is no longer sacred or safe. Men become addicted and cannot perform sexually in intimate encounters with live women. What was once taboo becomes acceptable, which poses a real threat to society’s vitality. All of the aforementioned circumstances are the bitter fruit that have fallen off of the pornography tree. The negative behaviors associated with pornography breaks up otherwise healthy marriages, causes sexual dysfunction and misrepresents the female orgasm, which is not all that easy to achieve in the real world. Porn promotes violence against women. It is utterly demeaning and demoralizing.


Conclusion:

Pornography is not a kind beast. Porn entices men and enslaves them through its addictive properties. Even those that are not addicted are not immune to its destructive effects on everyday people’s lives. Porn objectifies women and reduces them to their sexual parts. Porn robs women of their sexual rights and is disrespectful towards them. It is a women’s rights issue.

A message for porn addicted boys and men: It’s never too late to abandon bad habits and choose a better future your yourself. You are free from the burden of spending hours everyday looking for new pornographic content, only to feel empty and disconnected once you reach orgasm. Think deeply about your actions and how they are impacting not only you, but everyone around you. Think about how it distorts and pollutes your perception of women. Even if you think porn is acceptable, you should not accept the fact that you are dependent on porn by supporting such a destructive, dehumanizing industry.

There are already big communities out there that are trying to encourage people to abandon pornography. Join /r/NoFap on Reddit and free yourself from one of the most destructive forms of modern slavery.


Special thanks to Elizabeth Morgan Nadeau because of her time, and working in this document with me.

Mohammad Kermani

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