I try to think of their motivations for doing what they did, and I try to imagine how life brought them there
What Empathy is Not
Emma Lindsay

That’s the answer to the question, “Why didn’t you leave?” at least for me.

Hurt people hurt people. I’m empathetic to a fault. I’ve learned that is what has the potential to hurt me, the perceived weakness that is empathy. I figure people need someone to be that for them. Few people, I’ve learned, actually appreciate or even respect that. I have had to not allow myself to get close enough to anyone to feel that way. Or, if I do, I have to keep it to myself, distance myself from the person (so they don’t use it to hurt me), and work on dismantling any feelings I have/had for them.

For me, empathy is a shortcut to misery. No one cares that I care that much.