Interesting post. Kris Gage talks about emotional maturity being the cornerstone of a good relationship, and it seems he just wasnt there yet. Sometimes it takes us time to be on our own to learn these lessons. For example, since meeting my most recent partner I have realised that I never used to take responsibility for my emotions, much like your ex. It was always someone else’s fault. And if you’re blind to your own shadow (or don’t want to face it), it always causes problems. Thankfully I have now worked through it although it’s been very difficult!