
Awaken the full potential of yourself
Day by days, the world gettin more competitive. So how you can cop up with this cruel world if you not awaken your true potential?
Disclaimer: If you think that you already have a healthy circle that consist of supportive people, you better to stop reading this article right here.
I never think that my last year in senior high school would be this hard. Stressful, regrets, oppressed, and insecurites always being my friend all day all night. The significant self development is the only thing that i want the most right now. Like how many multiple question that i can answer this day for UTBK preparation, What kind of SOSHUM material that i learned today, or even what productivity(instead of studying) that i have done today, and etc. All that things i do in order to always develop myself even sometimes make me feelin lonely.
Talking about lonliness, actually there’s something that i just realize when i was in 3rd grade. Its about me that actually go away with any form of circle and make myself alone all the time. I don’t know the exact reason why i did that but last few months i got some combo trouble that change myself to be more individualist. Or even i feel that i can’t cop up with my circle activity and if i force myself to cop up it will just make me uncomfortable. Maybe That’s the reason why i go away from my circle. But actually it was very contradict with the old me that really count on someone.
But actually being individualistic is never that bad. Because for me, this personality was like “pandora box” inside myself. Because of bad vibes like lonliness, stressed out, opressed, just make me realize that i dont even need anyone because even i count on myself on them will just lead me into the worst sadness. But just like the concept of “pandora box” itself there are despair and also hope. So at the end this individualistic principle can boost my performance for development even more but also can lead me into greater hole of despair that can eat me anytime. But i will take that bullet in order to reach my dream. In order to cop up with this competitive world you have to be success and the way that i choose is by being individualist.
So what is the concept of individualistic it self?
Individualistic cultures are those that stress the needs of the individual over the needs of the group as a whole. In this type of culture, people are seen as independent and autonomous. Social behavior tends to be dictated by the attitudes and preferences of individuals.
Simply speaking, Individualistic means that you uplift the ideas of selfishness or the opposite of altruism. You prioritize your interest rather than the other interest, think that self reliance is a greater principle than relay on another people.
Being individualist also have so much harm. Like you will admited as the embodiment of egoism, being abandoned by society, and mostlikely no one would save you the moment you were in the hardest position. But actually those things are a little bit normal simply because the society that change you. Their behavior, and their treatment to you that change you this far. So i think we can normalize the harm because if we already being individualist, we already face those problems for sure before.
After you succesfully passed those harm, there will be extravagant benefit that you get. An individualist will get a greater self development simply because they prioritize their interest 1st. You will be so much stronger to face upcoming problems in the future because you already experienced and habituated to solve your problem with your self. Thus, we can say being individualist can make your maturity process even faster.
So here some tips:
- Put aside the people that can distract your development
Even it means by cut off some of them, i think it’s literally ok. We already understand that your development is the only thing that matters in your life. So if you know some toxic friends that so unsupportive with your activity interms of your self development, leave them away. It’s better for you to search for another friends that have a same vision with you and also being supportive with your development process. Because your surrounding contribute a lot to your self-forming. Choose your surrounding wisely.
2. Put your self as the 1st priority
No more altruist. In this case you still be able to help others or something but remember to put your self first. Help them just incase you are in the free time and you already sure that it won’t disturb you. Always make sure that you already finish your problem before helping others.
3. Tryin not to relay on another people
Relay, count on, its literally tiring. Make you have an expectation to another people but it oftenly ended up ironically because they not reach your expectation. But why some of us expect them? simply because we also ever help them. We help them in their hardest position, hearing their confession or etc. Being a kind person is actually exhausting.
Because the moment when you are to kind, another people will just manifest you as their garbage. They will come when they in a pinch and tell their problem like a person that throw some rubbish to a garbage. Its purely ironic because they oftenly don’t want to help us back or they dont give a great respond as you wish. Trust me, your self are the only one you can relay on.
Its also good because the moment you trust with your self it also can habituate your self to be more tough to face another problem by your self. Its actually not bad the moment you are being individualist.
