The World Isn’t Such A Scary Place After All
I hope you’re ready to kick some ass today. Today I have a really important topic that I really believe a lot of people need to hear. I am starting to realize how many guys really have interest in the areas of dating, pickup and seduction…shocker. Although dating and pickup is a skill unlike anything else, there is an anomaly that everyone faces.
Approach anxiety is often described as a fear or feeling of anxiety that arises before approaching and talking to a woman.
Excuse me? Talking to a group of woman causes fear to EVERYONE in the pickup communities.
This will be fun.
First and foremost, I think it’s safe to say that the main reason these people are getting “approach anxiety” is because they aren’t very sociable people. Believe me, I’ve been there, spent years getting out of it and hell, when I really am on my word grind, I often put myself back there cause I just don’t have the time or patience to talk to people.
But a FEAR? No. There are deeper rooted issues here.
I think the more widespread term that you are looking for is Social Anxiety, or a fear of interacting with people because it often makes us feel self-conscious and when this happens, we instinctively have feelings of being judged and over evaluated.
So to every guy out there that is “approaching” 100s of women to get over your approach anxiety, fuck that.
Talking to girls with some sort of hidden agenda isn’t going to teach you to get over your anxieties for good. What you need to do is learn that the world isn’t such a bad place.
Believe me, I know….back in Cavemen days, you could be killed for stepping out of the norm and talking to another caveman’s woman, but we don’t live in Cavemen days anymore…
Social anxiety is the cause and a victim-mentality is the effect.
Forget approaching women only, start interacting with everyone in your day to day life. When I first started getting over this, I didn’t have the time to go out to meet women, so I vowed to myself to have a conversation with at least 1 person, everywhere I went.
Best part? I was being real. I’m a GUY, I have a million and 1 questions that usually go unanswered. Don’t be afraid to ask them.
I remember the first question I ever asked someone when I made that vow to go out and be more social. I was at a grocery store where I used to live in college and I asked an older woman, “What is the difference between brown eggs and white eggs?”
Hahahaha. Still cracks me up.
Start learning and gaining references experiences that prove to you, deep down, that the world isn’t such a bad place and that no cavemen are going to come and drop a rock on your head.
That’s a pretty good place to start.