Psyche of Men
Do you WANT something? Do you NEED something?
What is it Champ?
The hottest women?
You can have it. You can have ALL of it.
But there is a catch.
A lot of times growing up, we are told that if we want something badly enough, we will accomplish it so long as we put our minds to it.
This may have been true back in Caveman days before our lives and minds were just filled external stimuli like FaceBook and TV.
Back then, if you found a way to catch a fish, you we’re like a God and just created the next stepping stone for Human Existence.
Nowadays, we have all become leeches to validation that try to keep our attention stimulated with things like FaceBook notifications and Instagram likes.
Society has conditioned us to feel “success” when we get worthless things like Instagram likes.
It’s as if we get 50 likes and feel that we’ve made it.
Congratulations Champ, 50 Instagram likes, “You’ve Made it!”
But let me ask you this, when was the last time you wanted success in something so fvcking badly, that you were willing to put all that bullshit aside?
Hell, when was the last time your cell phone wasn’t within 15 feet of you for more than 5 minutes?
As cruel as this sounds, you really have to act on feelings of sheer desperation in break free from the distractions of the world, if you will.
I remember these feeling like back when I was a kid and I’d be trying to swim from one end of a pool to the other without needing to take a breath. It was always so tough because towards the end I’d always know that I didn’t have enough oxygen left in my lungs but, I just wanted it so badly that I’d keep going anyways, until I literally couldn’t any longer.
So picture this and ask yourself how often you feel that way?
Like the world is SCREAMING now, but you persevere through the noise.
…probably not often at all.
So my question to you is this.
Do you have what it takes?
Hell yeah Champ,
You = Fvcking AWESOME. –
I’m loving the motivation, but that will only take you so far.
I want to share with you what I have learned by studying some of the most success people in their respective fields.
The Mindset of Millionaires
First off, I’ve tried making this very clear in almost all of my posts, you HAVE to take daily action. Not bi-daily, not on weekends, but DAILY.
If your goal is to get great with women, you need to go out every night.
Just like in the gym, you don’t get ripped or become a body builder by going to the gym just a few days a week.
You have to grow by FAILING in your goals every day.
Let’s take “Game” for example. If you go out one night and have a great time, talk to a ton of women, get a few numbers and maybe a makeout, then go home and go to bed. You’re just reinforcing your current progress.
You’re not growing. You need to push the interaction until you get rejected.
…same goes with the gym.
If you want to get really fvcking buff. Do you do 3 sets of 10 reps with a weight you are comfortable with, or do you up the weight and do 3 sets till failure?
You have to push yourself in order to grow.
When you continue to push every day, even just in small windows such as 30 minutes. You are keeping that momentum alive and creating a snowboard effect for your success.
Think of it like this. If you go out to meet women on Friday and Saturday nights, then don’t throughout the entire week. The majority of your time is NOT approaching women. You’re default settings are geared towards not approaching.
So when Friday comes around, it might take you even up to a few hours even to gain the courage to talk to a girl.
When you are out every single day taking action, you start adapting this new habit into your life and it becomes apart of your default setting. If you spent every day of your week interacting with women for 30 minutes, imagine how much momentum will have built up leading into your Friday night. It will be normal for you.
I walk into a club or a bar and just feel that, “I’m home”. –
When push comes to shove, taking daily action is really fvcking important and it opens up a whole new set of tools, if you will, in finding greater success.
If you do something enough, you WILL get better at it.
There is no question about it Champ.
But if you want to be the BEST, then “getting better” isn’t going to be enough.
Let’s throw this back to the days of going to school.
In every class we took, there was probably that one person that would get homework or a test back from the teacher and want to stay late to talk about everything they got wrong.
This may have been you. If so, awesome!
…but it sure as fvck wasn’t me.
Reviewing your mistakes and bad habits is necessary to your success in life.
Since us humans are creates of habit, it’s difficult to see bad habits that we have developed over time.
For instance, you might be great with women, but you are often getting girls that flake on you when trying to set up a second date.
The best way to overcome this is to sit down, write out your interactions and start trying to find things you did or said that got negative responses from women.
Then grade it.
Find out where your strengths and weaknesses are and fix them!
Doing this will literally turbo charge your progress in everything that you do and it’s so fvcking important in order to find areas where you need growth the most. –
Success vs. Mediocrity
This is going to be short and it’s going to be quick. If you are committing to going out daily, or striving towards your goals for 30 minutes every single day.
Then you have to commit 110% percent. The mindset of a successful person is this.
Fvck self doubt
Try until failure. –
I don’t care what anxieties you have. You have to be willing to throw yourself under the bus in order to come out a better, stronger, most masculine man.
You have to put in 100% of your effort. Read more about that here. –
You’ve heard it a million times.
Eat right and exercise.
It’s fvcking important, but don’t feel the need to take it to the extreme.
Still set a goal for yourself, it’s important to have goals for everything you do. But make your goal something simple like, do 20 push ups, sit ups and pull ups a day.
Something as simple as this will help stay vitalized and feeling healthy.
Lifting weights isn’t bad, i’m not saying that. But sometimes we are so fvcking driven towards our paths, that we don’t have time to put an hour of work into the gym each day.
For me, it’s building my business and game. That’s where basically all of my time goes.
I keep my health in check by eating organic foods, drinking green juice, doing push ups/ sit ups/ pull ups and having sex.
That does it for me and it will work for you too. –
Committing to success takes a lifestyle change.
If your day-to-day life is making it hard for you to find success. You HAVE to change that now.
Move closer to the city, workout less, find better friends that push you in the right direction and stop being afraid to change.
Something tells me that you are the kind of guy that has what it takes.
I know you are.
But will you take it and run?
Let’s find out.
– Kevin Hunter.
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Originally published at psycheofmen.com on May 14, 2015.