Spoiler: Life doesn’t revolve around you.

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Maybe self-improvement is the problem. Maybe our attempts to “fix” every aspect of our lives lead to tampering with parts that aren’t even broken.

We are so enamored with improving our lives that we forget it isn’t all about us. That mentality, more often than not, is precisely the problem: We make everything that goes wrong and everything that goes right about ourselves.

But what if life was full of other, more important issues other than missing a targeted goal of a certain number of followers on Instagram? …

If you want to make work you love, start by loving yourself.

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We love to beat ourselves up over the tiniest details. You make one misstep and your world is suddenly turned upside down.

If productivity matters to you, then you can relate to this.

You set goals, but something doesn’t go as planned and you end up degrading yourself. Your identity becomes connected with what you do wrong instead of right.

I’ve been there. It’s something we deal with when we care a lot about our work. But having the awareness to see that you still have room for improvement is one thing. …

Your purpose covers more ground than fame ever will.

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No matter who you are or where you’ve been, we’ve all fallen for the popularity contest. We’ve sought approval from people because we thought it would make us happy.

Deep down, though, the core pursuit is usually a means of escape. We wanted a way out of the dark world we find ourselves in, with toxic expectations and the pressure to measure up to someone else.

Some people get what they want, only to find out it’s not what they need. It just leads down an even steeper road of conformity.

Most of us refer back to our childhood when we think about how innocent, free, and peaceful we were. There wasn’t much stopping us from living our best lives. Then we added on cares, responsibilities, and goals that were/are important to us. …

You don’t have to be the best writer to be effective

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We don’t always know what to write. Sometimes words are hard to get out of your brain. And when you do get them out, they’re met with second-guesses and exaggerated errors.

Our care about structure holds us hostage if we aren’t aware.

The truth is, it’s good to have an idea of how we feel. Being ignorant of your emotions confuses you.

More critical than formatting your sentences is being authentic with them. If they aren’t reflecting what’s really inside, they won’t sit long in front of readers.

From that place comes are truest, most impactful words.

Writing isn’t about how much you know

Most people believe active writers are geniuses, masterminds who know the ends and outs of society — and the universe at large. But that’s a common misconception. It’s not about having a wealth of knowledge. …

Success begins in your head.

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All of us want what’s best for ourselves. And yet, many of us feel lost because our goals aren’t clear. Since we don’t know what we want, we also don’t know what needs to be addressed in our lives.

Both our values and our self-confidence are missing.

Those two elements originate mentally. Before we take action, we form mentalities that are either positive or negative. Then we generate positive or negative habits.

And while it’s true that positive results won’t always stem from a positive mentality, having the right mindset is still crucial for improvement.

It boils down to this: You become what you believe yourself to be. …

A meaningful life involves tracking your process.

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We generally have a lot we want to do, but we just don’t know how to do it. Flustered and anxious about where to go next, we often give up on doing anything. That’s why having a set of self-orchestrated guidelines is so important.

Without them, we drift and drift until we no longer know exactly where we are. Sometimes this can be good. But more often than we realize, it ends up being dangerous.

The question is which one causes more anxiety — having a set list of essential tasks to complete in front of you, or knowing you have critical things to do but not knowing where to start? …

You’re caught in a web of other people’s thoughts

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It’s one thing to write. It’s another thing to write effectively. There’s much debate over what that looks like for most writers. Lots of people bind themselves to rules that restrict them rather than aid their writing progress. And others prefer strict guidelines to follow because it gives them a sense of order.

Regardless, the goal is to be as impactful as possible. Over the past two years of writing, I’ve uncovered a lot about myself. My strengths, weaknesses, and everything in between showed themselves through a consistent act of writing.

That doesn’t mean I published everything I wrote. But I did spend quality time allowing whatever was inside to spill over onto the page in front of me. …

Life is about continually growing into who you already are.

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Being rich is not something I find taboo. In fact, I think about it often — what my life would be like, the things I would do, the people I’d meet. Thoughts like those keep you frozen in time.

What we do is sometimes a result of going after the dream of being wealthy. Not that money is evil or that having it makes you a villain. We just want to do more with our lives.

But as much as I would love to see zero after zero pile up in my bank account, I’m fully convinced that life is about more than how much money you have. …

The world doesn’t need more clones.

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Moments of complete freedom are only experienced when we are completely ourselves. No gimmicks. No pretending. It’s the kind of freedom that allows you to love who you see in the mirror, first thing in the morning.

We no longer worry about wearing a certain persona to make ourselves more appealing to those around us. Their opinions of us don’t hold as much weight anymore.

For most of us living in this day and age, the opposite is true. We want people to like us. We want to be accepted by whatever group we’re attracted to. …

#2: They allow room for repeated complaints.

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Have you ever met someone who complains but never does anything to change their situation? It’s hard to pinpoint anything else as annoying as that. Gnats didn’t make the cut.

What’s worse is that complainers sit next to you — eating bagels and sipping coffee — spewing one complaint after another. Then they go back to living life in the stagnant lane.

If these people were paid based on how much they threw tantrums, they’d be billionaires. But fortunately, that’s not how life works.

That doesn’t mean these individuals don’t affect you.

They suck the life out of you.

You start to think their complaints are valid because you hear them so much. But in reality, they come from people who don’t realize how powerful actions are in the process of change. …


Kevin Horton

Believer. Listener. I write for people who realize that life is bigger than themselves. Join my email list here: https://bit.ly/2VRaaY1

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