Maybe self-improvement is the problem. Maybe our attempts to “fix” every aspect of our lives lead to tampering with parts that aren’t even broken.
We are so enamored with improving our lives that we forget it isn’t all about us. That mentality, more often than not, is precisely the problem: We make everything that goes wrong and everything that goes right about ourselves.
But what if life was full of other, more important issues other than missing a targeted goal of a certain number of followers on Instagram? …
We love to beat ourselves up over the tiniest details. You make one misstep and your world is suddenly turned upside down.
If productivity matters to you, then you can relate to this.
You set goals, but something doesn’t go as planned and you end up degrading yourself. Your identity becomes connected with what you do wrong instead of right.
I’ve been there. It’s something we deal with when we care a lot about our work. …
No matter who you are or where you’ve been, we’ve all fallen for the popularity contest. We’ve sought approval from people because we thought it would make us happy.
Deep down, though, the core pursuit is usually a means of escape. We wanted a way out of the dark world we find ourselves in, with toxic expectations and the pressure to measure up to someone else.
Some people get what they want, only to find out it’s not what they need. It just leads down an even steeper road of conformity.
Most of us refer back to our childhood when we think about how innocent, free, and peaceful we were. There wasn’t much stopping us from living our best lives. Then we added on cares, responsibilities, and goals that were/are important to us. …