PinnedMember-only“The Secret that will Transform the Rest of Life”My journey with the Peyote plant medicine in Mexico (part 1) Prologue: it all started with a childhood suspicion.. I grew up as a happy, contented child. My single mom raised me with the philosophy of “taking everything as it is, not as you wish it could be.” I suspect it was the story she learned in order…Psychedelics9 min readPsychedelics9 min read
Nov 1, 2022LAST THREE MONTHS ON EARTHYesterday, I met up with Martin Liu, COO of @LID Publishing House London, where my book Not Being was published. We talked about the crossroad we found ourselves at this stage of our life. He had lived a full life. Born of immigrant Hong Kong parents, Martin worked hard from…1 min read1 min read
Oct 4, 2020Member-only“I need some space. Can you give me one month?”A kind way to take a break from a relationship going sour. — “Let’s take a break from this relationship?” You have been there, either as the one who pulls the plug or the one who’s left aghast in that painful declaration. Especially if you believe in some slight hope that a relationship can work out, not now but some points in the…Relationships6 min readRelationships6 min read
Published inThe Coffeelicious·Sep 18, 2020Member-onlyA Spiritual Being Having Human ExperienceOn Waking Up and Loving the Dream — This week’s inquiry begins with a quote that has struck me since the very first time I encountered it as a 20-year-old seeker. “We are not a human being having spiritual experience. We are a spiritual being having a human experience” — Pierre Teilhard de Chardin. For some, this makes…Life Lessons5 min readLife Lessons5 min read
Jun 28, 2020Member-onlyExpectation & HopeContext: this is part of a series on some useful distinctions that have made a difference in my life. I hope it will help you too. Expectation To expect something is to tie our state of being on an external event. It’s the self-made contract “I will not be contented until…Life Lessons8 min readLife Lessons8 min read
May 25, 2020Member-onlyFrom “Have to” to “Get to”A small change that makes a big difference — A while ago, I did a little experiment. Instead of my To Do list, I call it Get To Do list. I didn’t expect such a minor tweak to have such a big impact. …Personal Development11 min readPersonal Development11 min read
May 2, 2020Member-onlyNotes on Not BeingSome gems along the journey — Context: It’s my 27th birthday, and I’m entertaining myself by pretending that I actually have something worth saying. Would you like to join me to see the show? “The angels can fly because they can take themselves lightly.” G.K. Chesterton Light and death Lightness is the wing we need to fly into grave…Life Lessons8 min readLife Lessons8 min read
Apr 19, 2020Member-onlyThe Life-Changing Magic of Planning for JoyAn anti-productive productive trick — Are you finding yourself not quite productive at this time of staying home? I hear you. I’m struggling with that too. I have always been quite neurotic. Since a few crises about time management and self-improvement, I’ve become more spontaneous and being able to enjoy the moments a lot more…Productivity5 min readProductivity5 min read
Mar 29, 2020Member-only“You were more marvelous in your simple wish to find a way”A eulogy for a fellow pilgrim — Today, I woke up to the news that someone I knew decided to take their life. (They wished to be called “they”, switching from “he” to “she” and perhaps many more interim pronouns in their trying to make sense of themselves) I hesitated to call them a friend, for we…Death5 min readDeath5 min read
Mar 22, 2020Member-onlyThe Wisdom of Aloneness“In the bodily pain of aloneness is the first step to understanding how far we are from a real friendship, from a proper work or a long sought love. […] To make aloneness a friend is to apprentice ourselves to the foundation from which we make invitations to others. …Leadership9 min readLeadership9 min read
