10 Seconds At A Time
Dear Kings and Queens,
Valentine’s Day is officially over! Some of us woke up feeling extra loved and valued today. Others of you may have felt left out, disappointed, resentful, or even worthless (I’ve been there, too!). Wherever you fall on the spectrum today, I want to remind you that our feelings and emotions — both good and bad — are only temporary. We can wake up loving life one moment, and then boom! We lose our job, or a loved one, or go through a difficult break up, and we feel like life is over.
It’s no secret. Trusting God in those difficult moments is really hard. If I’m being honest, it can really suck. Between my career and my personal life, I have had moments where I questioned whether God cared about my situation at all. Now don’t get me wrong, I love a good encouraging one liner, but am I the only one who has ever wanted to straight up slap someone for telling me I’m “too blessed to be stressed?” I mean yes, by all means, the bible tells us to trust God in times of hardship, but failing to acknowledge the difficulty in such a seemingly daunting task can feel insulting at times! So how do we do it? How do we get past the pain? Well, we do it 10 seconds at a time.
A few months ago I was watching one of my favorite shows on Netflix, The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. The show centers around Kimmy, a woman who was kidnapped by a cult when she was 15. It begins with her rescue and follows her as she begins her new life in New York City–with no real world experience. There’s one particular episode where Kimmy is giving advice to a friend about how to get through difficult situations, where she states, “I learned a long time ago that a person can stand just about anything for 10 seconds, then you just start on a new 10 seconds. All you’ve got to do is take it 10 seconds at a time.”
For me, that quote was a game changer. I mean, a serious light bulb spark. We live in a generation of perceived emotional permanence. In other words, we often think whatever we are feeling or going through at any particular moment will last forever. If you’re anything like me, you get completely hung up on the negative emotions you’re currently experiencing, and it’s not always easy to see a way out. But life does go on! Situations change. Joy comes in the morning, and God’s mercies are new each day.
The past 365 days has been a whirlwind for me — I moved across the country by myself, started a new job, and formed lots of new relationships. Through the good and the not-so-good moments, I’ve had to continuously remind myself that moments are ephemeral — they come and go, and we can never get them back. Today I challenge you to really enjoy the good moments, but when the not-so-good ones happen (and they will), take them 10 seconds at a time. If you have to, count to 10 out loud. Breathe in, and breathe out. Focus on the beating of your heart. Before you know it, 10 seconds will have passed. And then another. And another. In the meantime, Trust that God is working behind the scenes on your behalf, and He will never give you more than you can handle.