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When You’re Tired of Being a Victim, Read This
Seven Strategies for Overcoming Victim Mentality
There isn’t a week that goes by when something happens to make me say, “Why me?” If you’re reading this, you get it. It’s a simple expression. But it’s also a victim mentality at its finest.
It’s frustrating to face setbacks, but even worse to accept fault for them. Sure, changing your cognitive approach and thus taking responsibility for change seems easy; at least that’s what all the motivational gurus say. But saying and doing are entirely different things.
I love listening to podcasts offering punch-in-the-gut advice intended to jolt you out of pity mode and on a better path. I’ve also repeatedly self-scolded with Cher’s infamous Moonstruck quote, “Snap out of it!” And yeah, I’ve probably all the motivational volumes on the topic. But sometimes I feel like throwing the books across the room. They don’t get it. It’s not my fault!
Been there?
We all have. And we’ve also successfully pulled ourselves out of that boo-hoo moment and on to making the positive changes needed to improve our circumstances. But sometimes it takes a little longer than we’d like. So, to better understand this emotional reaction to setbacks, let’s explore what it is, what it stems from, and what the costs are.
