No matter who you are, or where you are in life, it’s important to know how to get what you want. This is not to say that one should be demeaning, or even overly forceful. There’s something powerful about simply exuding the sense of self-confidence that commands the attention of whatever room you walk into, and whomever you encounter.

It’s a meticulous blend of quiet elegance, fierce sass, and patient charisma that makes a woman the kind of woman that turns heads while demanding respect and the right kind of attention. And this deadly desirable combination must come through not only in one’s demeanor, but in their dress.

Winning someone over is an art form that requires this combination of confidence and compassion. Scaring someone off requires the exact same blend, but with a touch more aggression (and maybe a touch of manipulation here and there). If you ever find yourself in the position of needing to do a little convincing, and a little intimidating, an approach that combines classy and sexy (the best of both worlds) is the perfect addition to this deadly combination.

Demanding the attention of your man while letting the other woman know you’re in charge of the situation is somewhat of a balancing act. The main guideline to go by is to “do you”. If you feel confident and sexy, while put-together and independent, that makes you not only more desirable, but more intimidating.

The main rule of the classy/sexy balancing act is to accentuate only one part of your body at a time. If you grab that LBD in the back of your closet to wear to a dinner party, wear your best push-up bra, but tone down your legs with opaque tights. If you’re going to be at the beach or out in the sun, and you want to wear ripped denim shorts that show a little something, pull out that beach cover up that limits your cleavage. Drawing attention to one part of your body creates the desirable, confident effect that you want, while toning down other parts of your body leaves an air of mystery.

Dress to be comfortable, dress to be confident, dress to be desirable, and above all, have fun (or at least look like you’re having fun in your Facebook pictures). With the right combination of sultry beckoning created by mile-long legs in your best stilettos and the approachable, comfortable essence created by the perfect combination of make-up that highlights your smile, not only will your man have eyes only for you and the other woman have the faint worry that your man’s already taken, but you will be a general force to be reckoned with.