Fat shamming is such an accepted form of bullying. It is everywhere and it is accepted by so many, across cultures and sexes as well as people with weight issues. What’s so sad about it, is that it is looked at as a health issue (which, it can be) but it is then seems anybody feels free to “help” you at any time, handle this dire health problem. I feel that I have been looked through and only seen for my weight and not for who I really am. People see me and say “not attractive, not worth it” and don’t give me the time of day. I think I can actually feel the shame when this happens. When I think about my weight, I try only to think about it as health. What is healthy for me and my height. How can I get there. I work on it, then I don’t, then I do, and so on. But little by little if there are victories I let myself get excited, and I celebrate my health! It really was none of you family members business to show you any of that information, unless you asked her to help you find out that information. And as for that photo, I think I get it, that photo is what the entire topic of your writing was all about. How you feel portrayed. Hang in there.