…’t. Women are expected to care about their appearance and their wardrobes in a way that men aren’t. Women are constantly trying to strike the right balance between being presentably professional, trendy and good-looking, but not TOO good looking, fashionable, or trendy.
…remove your manager from the picture, if anything they’ll be thankful that you’re helping them out. If a project isn’t being run the way you think it should be, talk directly to the people on that project, rather than waiting for your manager to relay it to the team.