3 P for a Happy & Healthy Life: PERSPECTIVE | PATIENCE | POSITIVITY

Melissa Kiss
Aug 8, 2017 · 5 min read

The other day I was sitting in one of my favorite lunch spots, enjoying a delicious piece of vegan cake & a matcha latte. I was lost in my thoughts as I suddenly overheard the conversation next to me:

“When things are really great & you think they can’t even be better, you can be sure that they are going to be worse. Whereas whenever things seem to be hopeless, you can be sure they are going to get better.”

And this man was absolutely right. I grew up in the believe that as soon as we reach adulthood, figured out our career, we somehow, somewhen will reach this point of “I’ve made it! No more worries!”. But then, in the midst of growing up, life taught me that’s never going to happen. Not the way I thought it would happen.

The past two years had lots of up & downs. I consider 2016 as the most challenging year of my life but I don’t wanna miss a single second of it. 3 of the most important lessons 2016 taught me to live a Happy & Healthy Life are the 3 P: perspective, patience & positivity:

PERSPECTIVE

Imagine I’m holding a sheet of paper in front of you and ask you which color it has. You see a bright blue sheet and answer „It’s blue.“ and I answer „No, it’s yellow“. We keep saying it

You see a bright blue sheet and I keep telling you that it’s yellow. Then I turn around the sheet and the site that was facing me first, is now facing you. And what do you see? A yellow sheet. Baseline is, two people looking at the same sheet of paper don’t have to actually see the same. Next time you’re having a discussion or fight or preparing for a meeting keep that little story in mind.

PATIENCE

Everything has its time. And by that I don’t mean just sit & wait for things to happen. It’s about balancing action & awaiting the effect of the actions you took. We’re so used to get everything instantly, and that’s fantastic in so many ways and a problem in other ways. Sometimes we tend to forget that some things just take some time. Our bodies for example, are no machines. The body is the most intelligent & complex system I know but in order to change your health or whatever condition of your body (weight, muscle…), give it some time! There are no “6-week bikini body” quick fixes that work not to mention that will last. You’re body is what you make it. You have the choice every single second. In most cases the body’s condition is simply mirroring the way you’re treating your body & yourself. So treat yourself with care & consciousness. Be happy. Be patient.

Which leads to the last P…

POSITIVITY

I’m having this conversation about positivity a lot. I hear things like “How can you be that positive all the time? I have so many problems I wish could have it as easy as you do.” ( I’m having the easiest life of all of you! Come ooon…) or „You should stop smiling that much and putting everything in a positive light, be more realistic. Life is not getting easier by just saying so.“ (it’s scientifically proven that your thought & spoken words have a massive impact on how you’re going to create your future) and many more. Remember the quote in the beginning of the man in my favorite lunch restaurant?

(“When things are really great & you think they can’t even be better, you can be sure that they are going to be worse. Whereas whenever things seem to be hopeless, you can be sure they are going to get better.” )

We will always experience up & downs throughout our whole lifetime. Everyone I know who experienced devastating downs, grew with them. Listen to people youre admiring and hear their whole story. Not only the part where they seem inexplicably happy & successful. Gary Vaynerchuk, Oprah Winfrey, Brené Brown, Simon Sinek, Angela Ahrendts, Mel Robbins for instance. Just to name a few people that are inspirations to me, all went through difficult times and they still do.

If we accept the fact that change is part of our lives, we know what to expect. We will find a solution eventually simply because if it doesn’t kill us, we’ll survive. So it’s your choice to fight these tough moments with a smile and by being grateful for the good things in your life and being positive towards the outcome of any situation or not. No one makes you feel the way you feel. It’s you reacting to your surroundings. Life’s much more beautiful when we see the good things with a smile while going through tough times.

„The one who starts the day with a smile has already won.“ – Cicero

„If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you“

When it comes to making changes in our lives we always want it to be fast & easy.

Change almost never is anything like easy. Remember as a child when you’ve been in pain during growth periods? When you’re working out really hard and your muscles are sore the next day? Working on your new business or the first few days in a new job? Not easy at all. Challenging, hard, complicated, painful… But not is it only worth it, but it is part of the process and even necessary and takes us to where we wanna be.

HOW TO ADAPT THE 3P IN YOUR DAILY LIFE?

…SEE THE OTHERS PERSPECTIVE

  • Listen to what others have to say. Really listen to them
  • What kind of impact has the surrounding on you and the other person? Where do they come from? What happened to them before makes them look differently at things than you do
  • Find all the angles you could possibly look at the situation & understand which angle the other person is at

…BE PATIENT

  • Breathe: before you freak out, complain, quit or whatever it is you feel like doing, when things take too long, B-R-E-A-T-H-E! Lowers your heart rate, makes you more focused. Happy & healthy
  • When you know their perspective & know where people are coming from you’ll be more patient automatically because you know what to expect of them

…BE POSITIVE

  • Smile first thing in the morning when you open your eyes
  • Smile when you walk on the streets
  • Write down 3 things you’re grateful for everyday & make it a routine (love to do it before Info to bed & use it as a short reflection of the day)
  • Do something good for others each day (can be as tiny as texting a heart ❤️ to someone you like. Positivity is contagious!
Melissa Kiss

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A L O H A💜A W A R E N E S S Personal Trainer Yoga student & 200-RYT teacher Meditation teacher ✍️A world where all are free, happy & healthy

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