I feel like projection is a type of gaslighting, maybe? It happens so much. I’ve always understood gaslighting to be twisting someone’s behavior and words to make them doubt their choices and judgment. So when I say, ‘I can’t trust you when say you’ll do something and then you don’t,’ and they say, ‘You’re controlling my behavior’ (aka *you’re* the one being abusive), I feel gaslit. I think, in my head, that twist feels the same as when they tell me I’m the one being abusive for stepping out of a convo, you know? But I totally think that could be them projecting, too. So maybe one is a subset of the other?