What about Schrödinger’s douchebag!? The one where if you give pushback, they say they were kidding! They are both joking (in poor taste) and not joking (actually chauvinistic) in some way.
Coworker: “She’s a woman, she can’t be CEO.”
Me: “It’s 2015, you can’t say that.”
Coworker: “Kidding! Kidding!”
But WERE you, really?