Loved this piece!
Keep trying. If the ASD label makes them see you as less, then they’re not worth.
Do pursue the label IF and ONLY IF it truly fits. I would love for my daughter on the spectrum to have other women with the diagnosis to follow and connect to. And you might find that ASD is covered under ADA supports and protections.
And yes, as I raise my daughter with all the available supports, I often see ASD traits in myself. Does it change me? No, but the knowledge of how we manage her has helped me manage me. And it’s helped bring peace and closure to the messiest parts of my love where my choices didn’t seem to fit the psych profiles and test scores.