Tonight, I lost someone who I *thought* was a good friend of mine.
and he gave me a solution to one of the questions I had about my life: who do I want to be around.
Oh I haven’t written at ALL on this for past few months and I have SO MUCH to write about! I’ll catch up on other topics later but this is fresh in my mind so I felt the need to share this.
As some people know, I had a guest at my oh-so-small extended stay hotel room in Bellevue for the past two weeks. Tonight wasn’t obviously the “best” night for the two of us. I kept my cool and he lost his shit. Here are the accusations that he made before he made his grand exit without words (which I replied with “Good bye!”).
- You are a selfish bitch.
- You think “you’re the shit.”
- You are very inconsiderate of other people.
All these accusations were made to me without any proper examples or incidents to prove his point. (Let alone him telling me to go fuck myself.)
Overall, I have been very uncomfortable with this certain individual during his little-less-than-2-week stay at my apartment. His behavior and the way he treated other people in conversations and interactions were not those of a gentleman. (For example, he was not considerate of other people’s time; the comment he made after missing a restaurant reservation that we made was, “Why are you upset? It’s just a restaurant.” Not only that, taking up 50% of the back seat with 3 people in the back is just plain rude.) During his stay, I could finally realize what kind of person he was: inconsiderate, a liar, and in general, someone without common sense.
To make it clear, I don’t have a negative feeling toward this person. In fact, I feel very sorry for this person and I’m not the only person with this opinion. Many friends who know of him and have interacted with him have told me to be aware, and I should have listened to their suggestions. You would always play victim; well, it’s time for you to look back and review your actions. The world is not going to be nice to you all the time. You can’t always be protected and justified. It’s time for you to look at your surrounding and be aware of it. (To your surprise, there’s more than just you in this world -gasp-)
Before he left my room, he refused to listen to me. He refused to communicate with me. He refused everything about me. I took that sign as a signal to end every single connection between us. Since I won’t be talking to you through social media or any kind of communication, if you’re reading this, I would like to thank you. Thank you for making me realize that I’m amongst people who are caring and loving, I’m amongst the people who support me, and I’m amongst the people who appreciate me.
Thank you for making me realize that I don’t want anyone like you in my life.
This was the moment where I really felt privileged to be around people who I love. I personally believe that someone spending their time to hang out with you is a luxury and a privilege. They are taking their time that they’ll never get back, with you. I want to take this opportunity to tell everyone who takes their time to talk to me, hang out with me, and spend their time with me, to my Duke friends, Microsoft Intern friends, High School friends, Key Club friends, and everyone who have been in my life:
Thank you.
I appreciate you.
Thank you for being part of my life.
Up next, end of the year at Duke review! (that’s loooong overdue)
I would like to thank multiple people who I will not name in concern of their privacy for their help.
