FWIW from a random Internet person, I moved from NY to Oregon to support my then-22 year old daughter in her brutal in-patient treatment for a less-common form of lymphoma. In order to feel some control over the barrage of well-meaning inquiries about how things were going etc., it was helpful to keep a blog that family & friends could read instead of calling or emailing. “Check the blog” became the go-to response to all the inquiries.

The blog started as a permission-required thing but reviewing and granting requests for access from so many people began to defeat the purpose. So I made it public, gave it a very generic title, and made it non-indexable in search engines. Then it was heads-down into the fray.

The whole cancer/treatment thing really sucked. Big time. Exhortations to keep fighting were irrelevant — we weren’t fighting, we were enduring. Advice to take care of myself may have been well-meaning but eventually made me want to smack people.

That “cure” word they use? They mean it. Meanwhile, one step at a time. That’s all we could do. We did. You will too.