You can not change people.
I know, you’ve heard it a thousand times. Honestly, I don’t think anyone truly understands what this means, not even me. Though, I definitely have my own interpretation.
I think the idea of wanting to change people is based on the previous expectations, or even assumptions, that we’ve made. Rather than choosing to except people for how they are, we upset ourselves for not getting the treatment we believe we deserve.
In some sense, this is fair. But there comes a point where the anger and frustration we build start’s to become our own fault. If someone is not acting the way you wish they would after numerous confrontations, it’s time to either get over it or leave.
And confrontation in general is another point. If you can not take the time to express what is upsetting you, are you allowed to be upset? Of course you’d think yes, all emotions are valid. While this is true, if you fail to attempt to make a change on something that is upsetting you, you are just hurting yourself. If you refuse to bring up what’s bothering you, aren’t you refusing to change as well?
One thing my mom always taught me is that you can’t change people. You can try as hard as you like, but if a person’s mind is set in stone there’s nothing you can do.
Find your peace while you can.
