This debate could be endless, I just don’t agree that being professional and responsible somehow equates to being some form of automaton. I know a lot of people agree with you, but it misses the bigger picture: you think people resent you for being too “perfect.” This is the inherent flaw in your essay as your foible is just this. An appeal for you to show more emotion from loved ones can mean so many other things that are worth examining.
A healthy work culture means that each of us in that environment can and should be ourselves. Personal growth involves facing your personality at work or anywhere else for that matter. Social and emotional intelligence allows us to understand each other and ourselves so we can communicate without the need to go to some form of “robot” mode.
What’s even more important than understanding our own emotions and communication skills is understanding those of others. Should people really have to ask us to show our personality in any dimension of our lives?
Are you working on an assembly line? No. Then what aspects are you holding back to the point that your own authentic self needs to be repressed?
An appeal to the demands of immense responsibility and professionalism is misdirection from my argument. People in multi-million (or more) companies are just as human as anyone else. They have may have children to get off to school, commutes to make and lives to enjoy in and out of work.
You can’t fake being authentic to seem more accessible to people. Likability isn’t just based on how we relate to our flaws, it’s also how we relate to each other.
Judging by how many people feel the same pressures you do, I think you’re a pretty relatable guy and you soon may have more friends than you know what to do with :)