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Have you ever been to a 21st birthday party or is it just a South African thing? Particularly, a Black South African thing? …


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A friend once passionately said “I will never date a Republican”! I was familiar with American politics at this point, I’d even chosen a side. I imagined myself as an American, what experiences I would have had if I was African American, and upon that I concluded; if I was born in America, I would have been a Democrat. Even having chosen an imagined political side, I was still confused by why Americans decide one’s moral code by one’s political standing.

In South Africa, our morality is completely divorced from what political party you want to have in power. We can spend hours debating politics and fundamentally disagree on our positions, but that in no way defines who we are as people — our values, morals, principles and humanity. We debate politics similarly to how we debate sports. We care who is in power but not in a way where we can lose friendships or decide future potential relationships. …


I have always struggled with the definition of a stepparent. What does it truly mean to be someone’s stepparent! I did what all smart people do…I googled the definition of a stepparent and this is what I found. It’s pretty simple really, a stepparent is a spouse of someone’s parent. It is a person who steps in, at whatever capacity and joins in the task of forming a person.

Now that we have defined it, what is the role of a stepparent? What are you meant to do for a child that belongs to the person you love and someone else? Do you parent them? Do you love them? Do you punish them? …

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