Is this your real experience?

I’m totally opposite. (Using past tense since I’m currently in a relationship)… I always met at a coffee shop convenient to me, a guy can either meet or not with the two or three options I give him (if he’s awesome we can extend our coffee at diner or a park). I never broke girl friend or self care time for men I was meeting the first time.

I’ll meet pretty much anyone for a quick chat somewhere comfortable/safe and convenient to me. Keeping the excitement and mental buildup to a minimal before meeting keeps things grounded and time efficient for both of us. If a guy doesn’t want to talk on the phone after about three emails or chats, and if after about two or the phone conversations he doesn’t want to meet, I don’t waste my time further. I think there was a study done on meeting rather quickly after initial contact…

I never even read profiles that deeply after the first communication or two, and rarely before. The major details are easy to remember and the rest usually comes out in conversation anyway. I’d tell a guy what I’m wearing and he can make eye contact and approach, and hopefully he looks remotely like I remember his photos looking. I did once meet the wrong guy who was looking for another girl he’d met online, but that happened only once.

I like to look nice, but not going to change out of the cute dress I wore all day to work unless I spilled something on it.

Afterwards if it was good, and if he doesn’t contact me in a day or two or three, I don’t mind sending a nice “thanks for the nice latte, I hope we can go out again” … and if he doesn’t take that assertive hint, he obviously wasn’t into me that much.

There are literally a zillion pretty nice single guys out there who fit the basic check boxes… too many to get stressed out about.