How many relationships one should be in to finally learn a lesson? I don’t know. I have had like 4 of them but i still don’t know how to answer that question. I can say 3 of my relationships were significant in a way that all of them were involved with love. Well, in my last piece i talked about love, but today i want to talk about something else. Something like why do relationships are worse but one of the best experience one could be in?
I have been in a relationship with a guy who was my type of guy but was younger than me, some days back. During that time, I had to travel abroad to go for my studies in malaysia and broke up with him. One of my my excuses was that i was older than him, and that he needed to explore the world and i didn’t want to be the one to stop him from that. So yeah! I wrote a short note to him and left! He was sad but after some few months he was in an other relationship with this girl that was her best friend. I felt bad about it but i kept telling myself that i deserved that and i should have been expecting that in a way. We stayed close friends, and he is currently in a serious relationship apparently.
After that i stayed single for about a year until i met again this guy who used to be my friend back in high school. Well, this is a very personal subject as i wouldn’t say much about this one but i would say i’ve learnt so mny things in this one. Our love wasn’t reciproc but it did when we were breaking up. The breaking up was unpleasent. It took me 2 years to finally realise that it was never meant to be. I really ignore who was hurt more than another. All i know is that we both were extremely hurt and there was nothing that we could fix. He got into this relationship right after we broke up, Counting down 2 years now and a half. I did the same too! Well, at first i believed this in movies. And in reality it hit me! Will someday talk about what happen though! He is out there and i am here reminescing about the past.
Lets talk about the one i am with in my 3rd relationship story. This guy is the perfect guy! The type of guy i never knew i would end up with. He is very calm and too reserved thats why! When i met him, he was a very charming guy, very good looking and so attractive! I was in there class. What i mean is that he was in one semester ahead of me, and because i was taking many units/courses i ended up being in the same class with him. I had just came back from malaysia for my studies, returning to my home country Rwanda to continue my studies. So, I didn’t know anyone in his class exept this girl i knew a long time ago and was the one who intoduced me to some of our or my new classmates. That’s how i met my boyfriend. He was shy but i liked that about him! I was the one to start with everything. To me it was interesting because i have never been in that situation before. I am not saying i hitted on him though! Don’t get it wrong. We started dating some few months later and things wasn’t easy but we managed to stay together for a long time until now, that i don’t have a clue of what is happening to our relationship.
Reltionships are weird! Why? Because we get involved with many of them and end up not knowing exactly what happened to some of the ones you been through in the past. They are really hard to understand. Its either you be in them and make a decision once and for all, which is marriage. If they don’t last, they live forever.
When relationships last very long thats not a good sign, you should start worrying about where its going. When it doesn’t it is fine because you don’t suffer or don’t have much to loose. Having many relationships will not be any of a help because not all of them were the same. They tell different stories but the ends are pretty the same, reason why your lesson should be, where are we heading in a relationship?
