By taking responsibility we can have a huge impact on the quality of our life.
A few years ago, I often got stuck in “Blame game” and I just have to say that it is not a good place to be in. I often fell into the pit of blaming others for my situation, how I felt, my unhappiness, my professional status, etc. I blame my past, my parents, the government, my boss and my husband just to name a few. But in each time, I was point one finger to another person or situation for my hard, unhappy life I was pointing 3 fingers to myself.
The day I realize I could not wait for some miracle to happen so I could have all the abundance and happiness in my life that I dreamed of, that I really have to take responsibility for my own life and action my life started to change to the better.
Well, I am not perfect, I sometimes fall in the blaming pit occasionally, but I get out of it as fast as I can!
The thing is, it is always our choice whether we take responsibility for our life, our happiness and wellbeing or stay in the blame game, and the choice we make can have a huge impact on our failure and success.
It is not the events themselves that affect our lives, but how we respond and our interpretations of the event that formed our beliefs, affect our lives and shape our reality and quality.
To be able to operate from awareness we need to make a distinction between the event and our interpretations of that event, we can do that by recognizing that in each moment we have a choice of how we respond to that event.
It is up to us what we choose to do, accept what happened and use it for our own good by learning from what happened and grow personally or go in the blame game and be frustrated and disappointed.
Blame game.
What is it that we do when we get stuck in the “blame game” and who are we blaming for our results?
Well, when we get stuck in the pit of blaming others we intent to cover our tail, ignore what is going on, we consider it not to be our job or concern, we don’t respond, and we start finger-pointing, it is always someone else’s fault, co-workers, family member, economy, weather or circumstances.
Who does not recognize being stuck in the “blame game” I think we have all been there at some point in our life, at least I have and speak from my own experience it is not a good place to be in. What happened when I stay there is, I get frustrated and it has a negative effect on myself and the people I care most for, my negativity grows, the energy level drop and my anxiety grow and I stop seeing the opportunities all around me.
So, based on these feelings and behavior it is not a good place to be in, not for myself or anyone else around me. But the positive thing is I always have a choice, am I going to get stuck in the “blame game” or am I willing to take responsibility for my own life and actions.
Concern yourself more with accepting responsibility than with assigning blame. Let the possibilities inspire you more than the obstacles discourage you. — Ralph Marston
Taking responsibility.
When we start recognizing that we do have a choice, how we respond to events and circumstances that happened in our life, we can see how much influence we have over our futures.
The essence of responsibility.
When we take responsibility for our life, we are more willing to Reflect and see things like they are, hear the hard things, have open and honest communication and ask for and offer feedback.
Making it ours by, learning from both successes and failures, being personally invested and acting on the feedback that we receive.
We constantly ask questions like “what else can I do”, we are willing to deal with the obstacles that are in our way and take necessary risks.
Plan and act, doing the things, we say we’ll do, set our focus on the priority tasks and building an environment of trust.
A few years ago, I made a conscious decision to take full responsibility for my life and I have to say it changed my life, even though I was the only thing that change.
Now I have a much better and meaningful life, filled with joy, happiness, growing personally and professionally, a better relationship with my family and friends, stronger network, and I have more opportunities in my life, basically, because I can now see them and I am focusing on what I want in life instead of what I don’t want.
I am not saying it is an easy thing to do, I sometimes fall in the blaming pit, but when that happened it is important to remind ourselves of the benefit of taking responsibility and take back control of our life.
It is only when you take responsibility for your life that you discover how powerful you truly are. — Allanah Hunt
When we start taking responsibility, we start to see how we can modify our beliefs and move forward, we gain more wisdom, personal growth and make progress towards our goal.
