Marriage is a Weapon

Marriage is a weapon of mass-subjugation. There I said it.

I think most people would be better off in happy relationships, recognised and validated in society, without the legality of “marriage” to go along with it.

There are people who benefit from happy marriages, but more often than not marriage creates an imbalance between two individuals, leaving no way out for mostly — women.

If we actually discontinued the concept and legality of marriage, mainly in the form of people choosing to not get married, there would be humongous benefits, on several levels.

• Child Marriage aka pedophilia would have nowhere no hide. The men marrying underage girls need to be punished.
• The Complications of Divorce would be reduced, more than 40% people who get married end up taking a divorce. Why go through it at all. If a live-in couple is allowed the same legal status as a marriage currently is, problem solved.
• Domestic Abuse would be out in the open, wives would have the freedom to not get tortured by in-laws, or face domestic violence, or be forced to leave their parental homes to live with the husband. You realise the pattern here- uprooting the woman, isolating her, expecting her to take up domestic responsibilities ? Marriage is an unequal deal for women.
• The Legitimacy of Children is another thing that boggles my mind when people talk of having a baby outside marriage. So many women are forced into keeping children they don’t want, are stopped from having recourse to an abortion just because they are married. Fuckall logic !!! Women everywhere in any condition, should be allowed to have “legitimate children”. Pisses me off how the only difference between a non-bastard and a bastard child is the legal acknowledgement of the father.
• LGBTQ relationships even though have received marital approval in most developed countries, they are still looked down upon. Destroying the idea of heteronormative marriage to be eligible to live together as a couple, also helps all kinds of couples make up their own rules for living and companionship.
• Polygamy is something ancient, pagan cultures practiced. And a monogamous legal ruckus called the modern marriage system destroys the options of polygamy. I have some news — a lot of couples are polygamous, they might live as husband-wife but they both have things going on the sidelines. By stopping the marriage charade we can be openly polygamous and curtail this damage.
• Marital Rape is probably the biggest reason I’d love for all Indian women to say no to marriages. The Indian constitution doesn’t recognise that as rape. It is a husband’s legal right to consummate the marriage and have as much sex as he wants with his wife. Literally makes my blood boil.
• Recognition of Women as Human Adults: It is 2016, still there are many legal documents that require a married woman to not only disclose her status as a married woman, but also to get shit signed by her husband for approval by the authorities. Like wtf is up with that shit. If a woman wants to renew their passport in India it has to be signed by Husband/Father. So our law doesn’t view women as actual human adults? These things give the men disproportionate power over a woman’s decisions. Stop changing your last name women, stop wanting to get married. That’s the only long-term solution if you want real independence.
• Legal Spiel: Why must all the property pass to the sons in the family. Why do inherited things automatically go to the daughter’s husband and not to the daughter ? Fuck the husband and his legal rights. I’m sick and terrified of seeing women constrained in abusive marriages, just because the husband holds something like this over their heads and women continue to sacrifice their person-hood for the sake of their financial security, or the children or for some other legal hoopla. I’m am exhausted dealing with men who turn into assholes because they are husbands, look up the numbers of women killed by their husbands— being made to live with another person for the rest of your life must take some kind of toll. I’m tired and I’m sad … helping women friends get their lives back after a divorce, simply because the “husband will not cooperate” and apparently has more legal powers than the wife. I am not saying fathers and husbands don’t get treated unfairly, they do but that too is a byproduct of the skewed system. Because of women’s unfair position in the legal situation, judges tend to go soft on the wife, they grant the child’s custody to the mother, regardless of how good of a parent she actually is. We are in this mess because to right the wrongs done to women, people lost all common-sense and went further down wrong.
• True Commitment: I think we have evolved enough as a society to understand we don’t need shortsighted solutions like marriage for a couple to live together happily. Those who need the “legal binding” of a marriage to stay together are probably fooling themselves.

Marriage has often been used as a nefarious tool by men for sex, and by women for money, in many societies.

It is high-time we all voluntarily choose to opt out of this facade.

PS- I am not denying the validity of a stable and loving relationship. I am just saying that marriage is unnecessary and in light of the above-mentioned arguments it is evident that in fact the world is better off without it.

A complex and intelligent species such as ourselves would really flourish without these labels and dimwitted antiquated systems.