Big Little Things
Do you ever allow the little things to become the big things?
I think traffic is a one of those subjects for most people, at least it seems to be one of the quickest ways to get under their skin. If you did a count on Facebook of how many posts are about people getting irritated about the drop-off line at their child’s school, people going too slow, people going too fast and the like, I believe the count would be astronomical. When did we decide that we alone were the judge and jury for everyone else? We aren’t, folks. We have no idea what another person is going through. Yes, I do agree that there are things that exceed what is safe for the public in general and should be handled by proper authorities, but that’s not the subject here.
Seriously, now. For every person that has annoyed you, you have probably been the cause for someone else. Oh wait, there’s some reality. Kinda stings if you let it sink in. Didn’t really think about that, huh?
The upside is that this doesn’t make you bad. It makes you human. You need grace. You need to give grace, too.
Scripture is full of references to grace..and compassion (and lots more but let’s stay focused here).
Take Ephesians 4:7 — “But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it.”
Or Hebrews 4:16 — “ Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”
Just one more (for now), Colossians 3:12 — “ Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”
We all need grace. Every. Single. Day. We appreciate when compassion is shown to us by another. Then why, oh why, oh why, do we let our temper go from 0 to 60 in a split second because we had to… wait a minute on that person to move forward in the car line so you could take your turn…. or to get adjusted in their car before they can back out of that parking space you are stalking….?
Y’all, that isn’t right.
We have no idea what someone else is going through. Maybe the person in the parking spot has arthritic hands and has trouble with the seat belt fastening, maybe it’s a man who just lost his wife and this was his first trip to the store without her, or maybe it’s a teenager who is just learning to drive and is nervous about doing this whole driving thing right.
At any point, you could be that person. With any luck, we will all be older some day and things may take a little longer than they used to. We will all grieve over a loss and just not move through our days easily and we have all been a teenager learning how to drive.
My challenge to you is to find joy in those moments.
When you are sitting in that car line…take note of the fact…hey, I actually have a CAR! (lots of people don’t), look over at the child you are dropping off at school and think about what a privilege it is that you can do that. You are here. You are present. You are alive. Look at the sweet face you are dropping off at school. Take it in. This day won’t come again.
I promise you if you can take those moments that frustrate you…and find the good…the joy…it will change your WHOLE life. I dare you.