I’m not fine!

What to do when a friend with depression reaches out to you

I’m tired of saying “I’m fine.” I’ve decided I’m going to start reaching out. But people often struggle with how to respond to a call for support - I know that anticipating this question at their end stops me from reaching out to most of my friends. So I decided to put together a list of dos and don’ts for when a friend with depression reaches out to you —

  1. Understand that it takes a certain amount of courage and willingness to feel what you’re feeling and reach out. It isn’t easy to pick up the phone and say “hey, I’m not doing too good.” Sometimes, it is easier not to verbalize it because that puts a layer of insulation between you and what you’re feeling.

We don’t ask. We don’t want to trouble or bother you with what we’re going through. We don’t have explanations. But we need support.

Collector of memories. Analyzer of experiences. Doer of things. Candid talker. Chronicling struggles with depression. “An unexamined life is not worth living.”

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