Meeting Up the Standards

“Pangit ba ako?… Kapalit-palit ba ako?… Then why?”

“I wish I could be their perfect daughter, excelling in class, bagging awards so that they would be proud of me.”

“I wish, I could be skinnier.”


These are some of the few words that people usually state whenever they felt like they have never been enough or good enough to someone or to something.

The version of “not enough”self-begins with an insecurity. You compare yourselves to other people, on their achievements, and in their personalities. When you feel like you cannot get through their standards and status, you are having your insecurities.

Every time you commit mistakes, negativities keep on rushing into your thoughts. You think people just see your flaws and weaknesses. You overthink too much! Why?… it is because you are scared to be susceptible, that is because you do not know and who you can trust. You are having trust issues. That is because you have been hurt, you experienced several heartaches to the point that you have a hard time putting faith into someone.

The point is, why are you afraid to expose your weaknesses? What for? Those who are real to you can accept the real you. If you are ashamed of failure, then you are not a human. Real humans commit mistakes and there is nothing wrong with it, the most important thing is that you continue to rise up. If you want to to be accepted and loved for who you are, be real! Show your shortcomings as a person. If you want to be understood, don’t confuse others and yourselves by being dishonest.

As a person or as a student, I admit that I have a lot of insecurities especially when it comes to grades. Why? Because I want my parents to have something to be proud of. I am aware of this insecurity but I converted this negativity into something useful and something positive. I do not let other people turn my insecurities into something worst and to something useless. I do not pay attention to them because I do not have enough time to waste on people like them.

Adjusting my character was never that easy but I know it will be worth it. I know that I am not the smartest person in the room, but I can put in the effort to become the best person of myself, the best version of myself. Not academically competitive but is mentally healthy.


As what William Cho said, “When you feel like you are never good enough, ask yourself if you are trying to live up to someone else’s standards. If you are, you have to understand that it will never be enough.”

Remember:

“Try to look at your weakness and convert it into strength. That is the true success.”-Zig Ziglar


Adapted from: “When will I be good enough?” https://mystudentvoices.com/when-will-i-be-good-enough-8206e9f98896

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