PinnedMember-onlyWhat is up with this shit about personal responsibility?My intuition tells me we’re hurtling in the wrong direction. It’s not just climate change and the Ukraine war sending us that way. Why is my intuition nudging me? Personal responsibility Many people seem to have twisted around the definition of self-responsibility. …Personal Responsibility2 min readPersonal Responsibility2 min read
Sep 26Member-onlyWho died and Named you God, a short history of assholes and how to get past itMy grandfather’s favorite phrase was, “Who died and named you God?” I find myself going back to this phrase a lot these days. The number of people who open their mouths, assuming what they have to say is relevant and unquestionable, has increased exponentially in the last few years. Is there a difference? I…Cancel Culture3 min readCancel Culture3 min read
Published inSybarite·Sep 11Member-onlyUse a Blowtorch on DessertAn American scientist finagled a British Title, and Now we Have Baked Alaska — I’m a messy cook, throwing ingredients all over myself and sometimes on the floor. Imagine me in the chemistry lab. I was a terror, spilling hydrochloric acid over the bench and hurling boiling sludge to the ceiling. It’s a good thing I’m not into making desserts. I love creme brulee…History3 min readHistory3 min read
Aug 26Member-onlyWhy do we continue to vote for men who behave like the boss we despise?I’ve wondered about this for some time. A few top reasons people say they hate their boss are: No empathy. Blaming everyone else but never themselves. Using fear to motivate. Taking credit for their team’s achievements. Favoring certain team members over others. Every one of these reasons is the mark…Authoritarianism3 min readAuthoritarianism3 min read
Published inSybarite·May 8Member-onlyLet’s Make Elderberry Syrup and Turn the Kitchen PurpleLet’s embrace chaos. — One of my fondest memories from childhood is enjoying homemade elderberry pie. My Dad, a fantastic pie maker, indulged us regularly in the summer with pies filled with almost black chewy berries sweetened with sugar. We moved west when I was about eight. Oh, how I missed elderberry pie. Within…Elderberries3 min readElderberries3 min read
Published inThe Haven·May 5Member-onlyThree of us love it spicy, and one doesn’t, but the extra-hot chilis are testing all our mettle.One of the things my partner and I have in common is our love of spicy food. A girlfriend introduced me to spicy food over twenty years ago. It’s been on my list ever since; my partner grew up with it. I vary the ways I add heat to the…Spicy Food2 min readSpicy Food2 min read
Published inSweary Mommy·Apr 8Member-onlyOur Dog, His Surgeon, His Oncologist, and How to Fail Epically as a Pet ParentHaving a sick fur baby is MUCH harder than it seems — JJ’s cancer had returned, and our regular vet suggested a board-certified surgeon. The tumor sits on his leg above the joints and muscles. It’s impossible to remove the entire tumor without damaging his leg. The surgeon is part of a specialty vet service that includes an oncologist and doggie internal…Dogs3 min readDogs3 min read
Mar 4Member-onlyMen used to wear nail polish, and clownfish are male, but not always—the absurdity of social constructs.Women love children and painting their nails, and men like war. Pink is for girls, and blue is for boys. I, a woman, don’t like children, don’t paint my nails, and hate the color pink! Where do we get this bullshit? Social constructs. …Genderfluidity3 min readGenderfluidity3 min read
Published inThe Haven·Feb 11Member-onlyIts dog and human training time as Kris and JJ do agility and dogs rule the dayEddy, the part lab/part something smaller than a lab, slobbers over his handler as he waits impatiently for his turn. Once instructed to go, he scrambles over the ramp, leaps over the jump, and gallops through the tunnel as fast as his stubby legs will go. …Dogs Training4 min readDogs Training4 min read
Jan 28Member-onlyA murder tale that involves crows, stalking, liars, and ratsI walked to the car, opened the trunk, and felt someone staring at me. Alarmed, I swiveled and locked eyes with one of the neighborhood crows. Creepy and crow go together. Our neighborhood crows are an ever-present force. Attempting to drive eagles and other raptors out of the neighborhood. …Funny Animal3 min readFunny Animal3 min read