Is Your Self-Talk Positive or Negative?

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Here are some common forms of negative self-talk:

Filtering. You magnify the negative aspects of a situation and filter out all the positive ones. You had a great day at work, filled with compliments. That evening, you focus on your plan to do even more and forget about the compliments you received.

Personalizing. When something bad occurs, you automatically blame yourself. When an evening out is canceled, you assume it is because no one wanted to be around you.

Catastrophizing. You anticipate the worst. Your day starts out with a few snags and you think the rest of your day will be a disaster.

Polarizing. You see things only as either good or bad. There is no middle ground. You are either perfect or a total failure.

You can learn to turn your thinking around! Here are some ways to create the new habit of positive thinking:

Identify areas to change . Start small by focusing on one area to approach in a more positive way. Your job, relationship, daily tasks or commute.

Check yourself. Stop and evaluate what you’re thinking. Find a way to put a positive spin on all your thoughts.

Be open to humor. Find humor in everyday events, including yourself.

Follow a healthy lifestyle. Get moving as it will affect your mood and reduce stress! Eat well to fuel your mind and body. It’s not about how you look, it’s about how you feel…

Practice positive self-talk. Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to anyone else.

With practice, your self-talk will help you become less critical of yourself, and the world around you!

Originally published at on October 16, 2015.