“Conquer the angry one by not getting angry; conquer the wicked by goodness; conquer the stingy by generosity, and the liar by speaking the truth.

[Verse 223]”
Gautama Buddha, The Dhammapada

As easy as it sounds it is the hardest thing to do. As I grow old and look at myself now I understand.

Fifteen years ago I had the blessing of having a conversation with a very wise man who knew the stars and he said: “Kuki, you were born with the gift of a sharp intelligence and you have a long, long journey ahead of you. The most difficult and longest journey will be from here - and he pointed my forehead and here - and his finger pointed down to my heart. He said “this is the longest distance you will ever travel to in your whole existence.”

I’m almost fifty years old. It took me (and it still takes me) a lifetime to understand what he said. Actually I suspected I did, but I didn’t know how. The real meaning of wisdom.

And time went by. And I travelled the world. I flew to France again and ended up in China for a few years looking for myself and THAT journey from my forehead to my heart, the one he was talking about.

In my search I went to talk to another wise man, only this time a fengshui master in Shanghai. This one said: “Kuki, you are one of those souls who will never be a victim of bad fate. You have the power to create your own life and decide your own destiny. At fifty years old you will be at the top of a mountain giving your hand to everyone beneath you, so they can climb the mountain as well. You will have a long life, full of joy. The best is yet to come”.

I was 36, I remember. I did not have the perspective of my own life I have today.

Now I know that big changes may be caused by small gestures. Even the smallest ones may change the course of things. Today I understand that giving my hand to help you climb the mountain is what I came to this world for. Even if you are a big person and the mountain seems small. Believe me, there is no better exercise for the HEART than reaching down and pulling up people (I agree with John Holmes).