Being a woman in 2015

I always had a reluctant opinion about feminism. Because in the media, it’s often represented by the radical feminism, Femen way. Even if it’s fundamental to demand our rights as woman, want to crush all the men, just because some of them trample us, it doesn’t worth better than what we daily struggle.

I support the gender equality.

You have to understand that I was raised by being equal to my brother. My mother has never forbidden me to play with my brother’s cars because it was for the boys. If I had the dream to become an astronaut, my parents would never have told me that it was going to be very difficult because I was a girl. And I had no fear of fighting against the boys, because I knew that I was like them, that I could fight as much as them. Even if I have a pussy and boobs. [oops]

The woman is hypersexualized in the media — and I have a problem with that.

All these images shown on the accessible woman, submissive and weak have an impact on our society. I find it lamentable to turn on my TV and see Nicki Minaj almost naked, trying to jiggle with bananas everywhere. I got to the point where it doesn’t surprised me anymore, to see a character in TV series being raped—wink at Games of Thrones. Bryan Fuller, one of the creators of the series Hannibal, spoke on the subject during an interview.

Entertainment Weekly: What bothers you about the way other shows approach this subject?
Bryan Fuller: There are frequent examples of exploiting rape as low-hanging fruit to have a canvas of upset for the audience. The reason the rape well is so frequently used is because it’s a horrible thing that is real and that it happens. But because it’s so overexploited, it becomes callous. That’s something I can’t derive entertainment from as an audience member — and I’m the first person in the audience for Hannibal. My role, as a showrunner, is to want to watch the show we’re creating. And if something feels exploitative or unnecessary, I’ll try to avoid it.
“A character gets raped” is a very easy story to pitch for a drama. And it comes with a stable of tropes that are infrequently elevated dramatically, or emotionally. I find that it’s not necessarily thought through in the more common crime procedurals. You’re reduced to using shorthand, and I don’t think there can be a shorthand for that violation — it’s an incredibly personal and intimate betrayal of something that should be so positive and healthy. And it’s frequently so thinly explored because you don’t have the real estate in 42 minutes to dig deep into what it is to be a victim of rape. It appears over and over again in crime procedurals without upping the ante and without exploring everything that happens. All of the structural elements of how we tell stories on crime procedurals narrow the bandwidth for the efficacy of exploring what it is to go through that experience.

During these last months, I really had the impression that all these things about which we dare not to speak, went finally out. The sexual harassment in transport, for example. A collective was created: stopharcelementderue! And the Project Unbreakable on Tumblr, it shocked me.

Fuck, it’s crazy to see that in our time we got there: that modern women struggle to gain respect and have the right to exist in our society.

If only things could really change.

But when you see absurdities as the controversy over the tampon tax, you wonder if it’s wanted all this mess?

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