The Male Inexpressiveness
In my studies and research, I’ve often observed the tendency for man to be less expressive as compared to women, and I believe there’s a significant reason behind this.
Let’s talk from the very beginning of their lives. In their early years, boys are much like girls because they are yet unaffected by societal norms and expectations. They have the opportunity to be fully present, often sleeping close to their mothers and experiencing that divine motherly love. But as they grow and reach their adolescence, they will start facing the changes in their bodies, personalities, and habits.
The growth in him; he usually can’t talk about that with his friend or family, feeling isolated in his experience. Not to friends because his friends might be going through the same period of life, they might be facing those same changes in them parallelly. They usually can’t talk about those changes and how they are dealing with those with anyone. He has to deal with that alone. Only a small percentage of boys feel comfortable talking about those things, usually through humour or sarcasm.
Meanwhile, as a girl and a daughter I can say this that; girls entering into the adolescence receive support and understanding from her mother because her mother experienced the similar changes. She can talk to her sister or her friend about her monthly periods. She gets care and gets nurtured from her family and friends, while she in her growth stage.
As boys grow, societal expectations pull them away from their family. They are encouraged to focus on financial stability, often inheriting responsibilities from their father. This distance from maternal care may lead to a sense of loneliness. While girls continue to get emotional support from their families, boys are left to figure out things independently, they have to try every possible scenarios of their life to find the best possible outcome at the end, often prioritizing societal success before anything.
When asked about his dreams, many man prioritize material possessions like a big house, luxury cars, money and fame. He finds himself in peace and happy when achieving these milestones because they’ve conditioned to equate success with happiness.
He makes those things as a definition of his peace and a fulfilled life because he was made shut up when he was growing, away from that care and love that girls usually get. He don’t get a chance to express himself in front of anyone, all his struggles, and those stages of his life. So he feels that achieving those things is the definition of his peace.
Meanwhile, women’s prioritize more about family, care, love, and emotional support because human’s are made like that. They reflect everything in their life in the same way as they were raised. Women’s seek fulfilment through maintaining relationships and emotional connections with them.
Whenever I ask some of my male friends about their peace and their dream, their answer will always be; 4 cars, a big house, and lot’s of money and fame.
When I asked my girl friends about their ultimate peace of their life; their answer would be like a loving family, being able to care for others, and getting enough love at the end.
To continue, in marriage, many men struggle with expressing themselves because of the years of emotional suppression. But females hold the divine power to nurture people, understand them, and take care of everything. Through their partner, men rediscover their vulnerability, and they are able to express everything in front of their wife.
They start feeling alive again. We usually see their true nature because they start getting all those love and care after the years of struggles. That’s why I think men’s are the most innocent human beings I have ever encountered — pure and deserving of love. Women’s have the ability to nurture and understand because with her he can share every ounce of his beat and she can listen everything to the endless time because she was raised like that, in a loving environment and to nurture those around her.
I often find many women’s complaining about the inexpressiveness in men, but I discovered these reasons behind their inexpressive nature. Due to the societal conditions, that took them away from expressing their feelings and desire and getting those unconditional love.
So I will say that; within every man’s journey lies a silent strength, because with the years of struggle and independency, they emerge as the most lovable souls.
