30 Days Writing Challenge: Day 6 — Single and Happy
When I looked at the brief, my initial reaction was confused. What is my interpretation of single and happy? Is it about a relationship status? Is it about a feeling? I have written about being alone and lonely so I tend to associate being single with something other than happiness. The feeling I get from being single is uncertain. I generally feel okay with it, thinking that maybe I am used to it. So, here is my take on being single, and hopefully offers something relatable.
Being single, for me, is a choice. It does not mean you are less worthy of love, whatsoever. Like, I haven’t had a girlfriend for a while and that doesn’t mean I don’t want a girlfriend. Some would say I am not ready but the truth is I prefer not knowing. I have missed the caring, the compassion, the fire in a budding relationship. I can be very close to someone, but none of us would say a thing even though we know there’s something inside. Sometimes, it makes me feel entitled.
When I asked people the reason why they can’t be single, the response was usually “I can’t be alone” or something like that. However, I honestly think that knowing and having time with yourself helps you to love better. It helps you to set boundaries and respect that each person in a relationship is still an individual. Maybe, being single has taught me individuality.
Prior to the pandemic, I usually shop alone. Eat out alone. Literally doing almost everything alone. I feel okay with that. Most people raise their eyebrows in response to people who are comfortable being alone.
Maybe this is the happiness of being single. I just don’t have to cling on somebody to feel good.
I wish to have a partner that understands — and maybe — shares this perspective on individuality.
I love myself and I am ready to open my heart, and fall, and love really really hard.
