Self discipline isn’t self-prison, and entrepreneurship isn’t a risk-it-all proposition. It’s possible to strike a healthy balance between hard, gritty habits and the entrepreneurial muse in your head. In fact, they compliment each another.
I’ll present three companies in this article from three separate industries, none of which were readily prepared for the pandemic. All they have in common is a shared philosophy, one that you can walk away with right after this article.
You don’t even need to skim, here it is: These companies believed that their discipline and creativity could make a positive impact. …
Personal development and I haven’t always been friends. In fact, there was a good portion of my younger life that I felt the entire thing was complete garbage. Maybe that’s why I’m playing catch up.
Maybe you feel what I feel, that there’s a lot of weird stuff associated with personal development. It seems like the Internet can sometimes blur the lines between credentialed psychologists, self-help gurus and certified life coaches.
Yet it remains insanely popular. As of this writing, there are between 10,000–100,000 average monthly searches for “personal development.” That doesn’t even include any of the synonyms.
The kids I worked with were far from saints. Some of them couldn’t be absolved by our natural inclination to say “they did it because they had no choice.”
We want to say that.
We want to say they came from terrible circumstances and their actions were logical extensions of this societal lack. Well, that’s true and not true, depending on the kid.
Yes. Their actions were oftentimes reflective of the environments and dysfunctional family systems they came from. But they committed the crimes and they had to take accountability for their behaviors. …
Not too long ago I watched a YouTube video of an author named Neil Gaiman. Neil’s a force of a writer who claims someday he’ll “grow up and get a real job.”
When he was asked why he only writes novels and doesn’t sync his books into a series, he said that he’s far more interested in finding new shiny objects than getting bored with just one idea.
In other words, he’s not putting all of his eggs into one creative basket. His Starz deal for American Gods and 9 million Twitter followers suggest this is a decent idea.
I find people inspiring.
Most of the time — certainly not all — people will do the best they can with what they’ve got. I believe parents have been superheroes long before they had to start teaching their own kids. I believe people who sink their teeth into a side hustle are resilient as hell.
They’re inspiring to me. When everyday people step up, I want to step up. If you’re grinding out a side hustle, you inspire me.
I’ll be clear here: I haven’t made it online. I don’t have snapshots of cool metrics to show how much I’ve…
In my early twenties I had the opportunity to go overseas to a third world country as part of a short military operation. It took place during the summer as part of an annual training and the entire experience was sandwiched between the end of one college semester and the beginning of another.
The contrast between this experience and returning to school was eye-opening.
Like most college campuses, the university I attended for my undergraduate degree was built for comfort. Dunkin’ Donuts on either side of the campus, cooks who strived to make warm and good tasting food for the…
Few interactions turn into guerrilla warfare faster than a talk about money problems.
Credit card debt, school loans and the godforsaken “insufficient funds” notice can lead to some nasty conversations and hard feelings. On top of this is my firm belief that many of our mental health challenges stem from being chronically unfulfilled at our jobs and not agreeing on money challenges.
In fact, it’s a little more than my belief.
Recent research from the University of Minnesota suggests that our attitudes about money are one of the strongest influences in the outcome of our relationships, sometimes just as much…
Here’s a thought experiment: What if we treated challenges the way we treated seeds? Something to be watered and tended to that would eventually become something different. We’d treat stress and strife like currency, seeking it out to grow from it.
It’s not really a thought experiment, though. In fact, this philosophy of living is quite active in military units and clinical offices alike, all throughout the world.
In the military, it’s called one’s ability to pivot. In mental health, it’s a cognitive reframe. These are the tools of the thriving.
This article is more about talking — communicating — than politics. I personally find deep dives into political waters a little dull, but I do find the communication around them interesting.
This article is for people who turn into a deer in headlights when a conversation takes a political turn. Especially if you’ve got some opinions that you haven’t aired out publicly or are worried you’ll be seen as going against the social grain in your environment.
So what do we do when that happens?
We could rent a U-Haul, tell our parents we never liked them anyway and move…
I feel strongly I should write this article before I’ve made a dime or reached thousands on the interwebs. I say this because I believe that building resiliency can only be done in hardship.
Choosing a career path can be scary as hell. So is settling for a career we don’t want…
So I think we’re in the market for resiliency.
There’s a constant tug-of-war between what you feel you have to do and what your heart is screaming on the inside. Will you be fulfilled? Can you make the world a better place for working in that role?
Dad & husband, former Marine and a couple degrees in psychology. Writer for a few publications that care about giving people a hand.