If we cannot see or hear others’ anger, we stand in the way of the change it seeks. And if we quell our own anger, we numb ourselves to what’s wrong, and we muffle how to make it right. Despite our best intentions, our resistance to anger blocks our ability to connect, to empathize, and to take action to build something better.
You have not earned the well-intentioned bullying of family members who insist that they’re only acting out of concern for you. Your body doesn’t entitle partners to belittle and abuse you. Your weight doesn’t mean you deserve to be condescended to, shamed or ignored at the doctor’s office. Having a fat body doesn’t mean that anyone can treat you however they want.