Sex After Breast Cancer!
How do you get your “SEXY BACK” after Breast Cancer?
Sex is on your husband’s mind, he desires to touch you, to kiss you, and make love to you. There is one barrier stopping you and it is the lost of your breast, part of your breast, and the scar you fear will turn him off. He reassured you that your still beautiful, he is attracted and the presence of the bulge in his pants speaks louder than his words. It is not him it is YOU!
You walk into your closet , looking through all your sexy lingerie, putting on piece after piece there in your face is the scar, your breast not being there, the deformity of it. The woman who once initiated sex and desire the touch of her husband/lover feels as if she has lost her way. She only feels sexy when she dressed her best but at night in front him in a lace bra and panties she feels undesirable. She no longer feels feminine or attractive and that is real she has to overcome but how? What is the answer?
Breast cancer impacted my thoughts of my body image. Out of all the battle scars I have the one on my breast impacted me the most. I once thought it was always “just a breast” until the big C came and change the way I thought about my body. The question came I am still beautiful in his eyes. Does he miss my breast? Here the facts I miss my breast and I never thought I’d actually say it but I do. Wearing my sexy lingerie didn’t appeal to me so why in the hell would it to my husband. I want my sexy back and it isn’t just about my husband. 70% percent of it because of Sarah and the remaining balance is for my husband. It is about me loving every inch of my curvaceous body and I on a quest to getting my sexy back.
I know it is a mindset and this battle is within me. I have to look to God, pray, and ask for strength and guidance. It is time for me to fall in love with my body just as it is. I refuse to let cancer rob me of my relationship with my sexiness, my body and desires.
To my sisters battling with intimacy after breast cancer you are not alone. Just like you I am still on a quest to get my sexy back.
